Treating Someone As They Ought To Be

Do not do to others what angers you if done to you by others. If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.
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Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. Throughout history there have been many who have defied those with negative attitudes around them. Because of their willingness to fight against the negative energy around them they were able to leave behind impeccable legacies for the rest of mankind to follow after. In the lives of these great people there were many who stood along their paths being negative and casting opinions of them that could have only tore them down if they had listened.

Don’t be one of these naysayers in the life of anyone. Appreciate people the same way as you want them to appreciate you. And if people start to acknowledge others work, the world can become a better place with so many skilled and knowledgeable people. Appreciation also help individuals to further specialize in their fields. For instance, if you acknowledge a designer, he will not only like “the nice words”, but will also work ever harder so as to maintain the same level of knowledge and creativity.

Never tell someone that they cant accomplish dreams or goals that they truly believe in.. There is a huge difference between criticism that will help a person build versus criticism that will only tear a person down. Throughout life, people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, because hate in your heart will consume you too. Do right. Do your best. Treat others as you want to be treated.

Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people. Choose your words wisely, and be sure that everything that you say or do can be used for good and not for negativity. Be an encouragement!

Be The Reason Someone Smiles Today

Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.


Happiness goes further than the exhilarating awareness we experience when we expect something good to happen to us. It is about a constant effort to make positive changes and choices to re wire the brain to start to produce ‘happy pathways’ and alter it from repetitious pessimistic behaviour patterns and thoughts which result in unhappiness. What I learned was that, although you can’t be happy all of the time, you can be happy most of the time. You just need to recognize more of the happiness that’s already happening.

If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes. You cannot judge what should bring others joy, and others cannot judge what should bring you joy. True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. One of the secrets of happiness originates from our thoughts. Years of indoctrinating ourselves with negative and harmful thoughts have resulted in unhappiness. However, all this can change by taking accountability and simply maintaining your thoughts and fixing them on happy events. This is not an overnight ‘fix’, so patience and endurance is paramount in achieving the end result which is of course happiness!

Happiness is not only important to our personal and societal lives, it is important to our global community because happiness is not having what you want. It is appreciating what you have. Try not to take small things for granted, remember how it felt to be a small child choosing an ice cream or the feeling of sand on our toes. Remember, happiness is a choice we make as adults, why not smile today and see what happens because the best way to pay for a lovely moment is to enjoy it.

Everyone Who Is In Your Life Is Meant To Be A Part Of That Journey

Everyone who is in your life is meant to be a part of that JOURNEY, but not all of them are meant to STAY. Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.
Maybe some people just aren’t meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some people are just passing through. It’s like some people just come through our lives to bring us something: a gift, a blessing, a lesson we need to learn. And that’s why they’re here. You’ll have that gift forever. The more that you grow and find yourself the more that you’ll realize, certain people just don’t make sense for your life.

Leave the drama behind, the negativity out and people with constant issues. Life is too good, better and each morning you wake up is a reminder that it is a beginning of your life not the past that burden you to consume who you are. Learn from your past, live today and consider changes for the better tomorrow. Those who figures out this simple life equations lives betters. The progression in your own life should be met with the progression of the people who are closest to you.

You have to cherish every moment of it. Life brings unexpected things and you’ll never know what will happen next. Our true friends are here to see us grow and to thrive. Friendships should help to constantly push us towards the direction of growth, while also relying upon us to help hold them accountable for doing so.

When you realize that the people around you aren’t doing this, or may be prohibiting you from reaching your goals, you may have a problem. Sometimes life will make you give up what you love most.

If you are truly excited about life and if you are truly focused on changing this world to make it a better place, you can’t get caught up in expending energy on the things and people that aren’t for you. Treat all people well, but focus on giving your love to the friendships and relationships that actually mean something. Live the reality today! Work what you have today and don’t plan on spending more than what you can afford. Not everyone is meant to stay forever.

Commitment Means Staying Loyal Regardless Of Circumstances

Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than the words. It is making the time when there is none. Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.

1641759True commitment to someone means that you aren’t  just willing to be there for them during the good times, but that you will be there for them during the bad times as well. Think of at least one major accomplishment in your life that has really made you proud of yourself. Now, think of the initial commitment you made when you got started. On a scale of 1-10, how committed were you?  Were you very committed or simply desiring something?  There’s a vast difference between the two. When you simply desire something, you do it only when circumstances permit. When you’re committed, you accept no excuses, only results.

At times you will be tempted to put yourself first. Sometimes you’ll worry that if you don’t, you won’t succeed, you’ll fall behind. At these moments, you’ll have a choice to make. And I hope you choose to do something for someone else without expecting anything in return. In my view, that’s the meaning of unconditional love. When we love someone and agree to be with them, we are saying that we will continue to commit to them and no matter what obstacles get in the way you will continue to grow, together. When you tie the knot of a relationship, you do it on the basis of commitment, love and respect. You and your partner are close due to the promise made to be with each other through all the odds of life. However, if the promise made was just a lip service and there was no commitment, the relationship is left astray.

You must understand the complete consequences of your commitment and fully mean it when you say it. When you make a commitment, others will take you seriously and rely on you to be true to your word. Falling in love is the easy part, while keeping love afloat is the more difficult part. When dealing with love, one thing is true throughout every relationship, there will be tests along the way. No one is perfect and because we are imperfect things will go wrong when we deal with other people. Remember that love is like all aspects of life, it is a commitment, and you must be willing to fight hard for it to work. Always remember that commitment is not the act of losing your freedom; but exercising it to choose who you want to give your most valuable gifts to: Your time, your emotions, and your heart. Commitment is an act, not a word.

Wishing You Compliments of The Season

As another year coming to an end, I would like to take this opportunity to wish my readers and followers a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I trust that this holiday season has been a gladsome one with you and may the coming New Year be one of prosperity and happiness.
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Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own home. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbour . . . Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting. Spread joy wherever you may go. There is already enough darkness in this world for all of us if we desire to live under it. Flee gracefully from that norm and be a light.

If you refuse to believe that enlightenment can not happen, then you will become one enlightenments biggest muses. Allow the positive vibrations of being your true self to spread to others in every way possible.

Be kind, greet others, be giving, and be sincere with everyone you talk to. Look for people who need encouragement and encourage them. Show people things that are good and whole in the hope that they will do the same to another soul in need.

Take the mission of being a positive influence in the lives of others and combine it with your passion to help create the legacy you truly want to leave behind.

Be love, spread love. Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.

Best Relationships Happen Unexpectedly

The best kinds of relationships begin unexpectedly. When you get the astonished feeling and everything happens so suddenly. That’s why you don’t look for love. It comes to you just at the right time; the time you never thought it would have.
If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dream’t of having. Sometimes we hold ourselves back when it comes to relationships as we set a specific scope on who we would allow ourselves to be in a relationship with, forgetting that everyone may not always look the part that they may be able to play in our lives.

Relationships form the foundation of all our experience; they shape us from the moment we are born through the moment we die. Relationships happen. They form regardless of our intentions, they are as effortless as breathing. Yet a relationship that strengthens you can be the most elusive thing in the world, hiding always in your own shadow. To truly know someone, to create a relationship that feeds your spirit, you must open yourself up, become vulnerable, be a child in awe and fear. This is the most terrifying thing, more frightening than any disaster, any harm that may be visited upon us. And yet, to let go, to dive into that fear, gives life meaning. It is the most exquisite joy, and the greatest triumph of human life. We’re human, we make mistakes, and sometimes it is because of these mistakes that we find ourselves in places we may not have ever expected to be with people we thought we’d never be with. Sometimes these relationships that develop from unusual circumstances are the best things for us.

Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with. Caring for people that we may have never saw coming can change who you are from the core, and show you sides of life that make you appreciate being alive even more.

Relationships are built on all different foundations, but the ones that last are built on trust and open, honest conversations. So never take for granted the unusual. Be adventurous! Guard your heart but remember that as long as someone is always genuine with you, maybe you should give them a chance.

Don’t Change Who You Are…

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. You can never be happy as someones other half unless you can be happy as a whole all on your own.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Never change or fear being yourself, and never compromise in being true to who you are within for the benefit of someone else. When other people treat you poorly, walk away, smile and keep being YOU. One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s OK. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.
Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Maintaining integrity throughout your life is key to thriving and living a triumphant life. Only those with real strength, are able to really embody and live as their true selves in every moment. Those who are able to do so live from within first, instead of trying to present an image on the outside to attract others. You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.


Happiness comes more easily when you feel good about yourself without feeling the need for anyone else’s approval. The people that are genuine in your life will always recognize when you are living with integrity and will always steer this glorious path. They will never ask you to or encourage you to compromise who you are as a person in order to see some sort of gain. Because they understand whatever you gain from doing so wont add any real value or substance to your life. Be nice to people on your way up because you might meet them again on your way back down.

Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else because when you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you. It’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Always remember that no medicine cures what happiness cannot. Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love.

Never Force A Relationship

I won’t force myself to have space in your life because if you know my worth, you’ll create one for me. I don’t know how people can fake whole relationships. I can’t even fake a hello to somebody I don’t like.
When someone isn’t willing to make time and space for you in their life, it is usually because they don’t respect how special of a person that you really are. They may genuinely like or love you, but we must all remember that showing love to someone is more than just telling them it every once in a while. There is no room or time in this world to be cruel, as there is no room or time in this world to be fake. Being free and living a free life is all about using your instincts and believing that what your heart and mind tell you are true.

Don’t force yourself to have space in a person’s life that doesn’t recognize your worth. Instead use the time and energy that you want to dedicate to people of this nature in an effort to better yourself. Work on yourself, and work on the other relationships that matter to you, so that you may easily become the best you by the end of your lifetime. Sometimes, our instincts will tell us to stay away from certain people in life. This may be because our life trajectory is different from theirs. This doesn’t mean that we think we are better than anyone else, or think of ourselves as less than anyone else. But it does mean we have to be willing to examine the fact that not everybody who has the opportunity to enter our lives will be for us.

Always respect those who have to be in your life, but also recognize that those who see your potential are those who will probably be of most help and most love to you during life’s difficulties. Instead of forcing relationships with people we must be willing to stick to God’s plan, a plan that never fails. Don’t trust in what people say or do if it’s not in your heart to trust in them at all. Be real to yourself and your feelings. When your heart speaks, listen.

True Love Is Rare

True love is rare, and it’s the only thing that gives life real meaning.
To truly love, we must first know God. Love starts with God and ends with God because God is love. Most people’s idea of “true love” looks something like this: Mr. or Mrs. Right is waiting out there somewhere, “the One” they are destined to be with. And that special someone is looking for them too, and it’s only a matter of time before they meet each other—and of course, they’ll both live happily ever after. True love isn’t here to hold you back, and to make you feel like you aren’t good enough for this world alone. True love builds you up and actually helps you to believe quite the opposite.

True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together. If you find yourself being dismayed, and deflated every time you deal with someone that supposedly loves you, chances are it isn’t real love. If you find yourself not believing in yourself and wondering if you can even do what you dream of doing because of the opinions of someone who loves you, it isn’t real love.

Love isn’t something that is derived from within us. It is radical. It is supernatural. For the kind of love that God calls us to–the love that loves our neighbor as much as we love ourselves. A real love will not bring you down, a real love will bring you up. A real love wouldn’t lie to you, instead it will tell you truths that will help you build yourself up to get to your dreams.

True love is selfless. It is prepared to sacrifice. True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart. Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. That is not our business and, in fact, it is nobody’s business. What we are asked to do is to love, and this love itself will render both ourselves and our neighbors worthy. A real loving relationship will help both parties involved move up in life, not remain stagnant, and not deteriorate. Take heed to this, and remember to only allow real relationships in your life.

Appreciate And Love The People God Gave You

When you acknowledge someone, you recognize their value and importance. Appreciate and Love the people God gave you because one day he will need them back.
The ultimate present you can give another is your PRESENCE. Cherish life, and everything that it entails. Especially the relationships that you have with others. Do this because the relationships that you have with others will be the strongest testament to your life when you are gone. When we pass on, the memory of us will be passed on by the people who loved us most. You do not have to be available for everyone in every moment … but when you have someones time and attention; honor it with your presence. Really make that person the center of your attention and experience, even if only for a few minutes. It does wonders in the mattering department!

There is a difference between simply listening to people and listening with interest. This kind of listening requires your ears and heart. Listening with deep interest signifies that you really care about what someone is saying in contrast to simply listening because it is the nice thing to do. This means that we have to be willing to make time for the people in our lives that are most important. If you love someone be sure to show that someone how you feel. Give them your time, even when its inconvenient. Be a true lover, friend, son, daughter, father, mother, and so on by spreading the love you have inside of you to the people you love on a regular basis.

Let your love be known. You’ll never know the last time you’ll be able to. Tomorrow is promised to no man. Join me in letting the world know in big and small ways that they matter. And in case you’ve not yet been told today that what you do makes a difference, then let me be the first to say…YOU MATTER!