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Think Beyond Average


Nobody can be perfect. But there is still immense value you can get from debugging those inconsistencies. Making the gap between your walk and your talk a little bit smaller.

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Imperfections are part of life. I think it’s sad that some people feel that because being perfectly consistent with your values is impossible, that there is no point trying to debug the inconsistencies. Some self-improvement cynicism is the result of demanding the impossible, expecting perfection instead of progress. It’s a tough world. People step on each other to rise higher and sell each other out to earn more. There are some people who just don’t want to compete. What they earn is more than enough for some people. If you have peace with it and genuinely don’t care about earning more, then this post was not meant for you. But if you picked your path just to be safe from all this chaos, then hear me out.

Step out of the crowd of average people. Enter that game and change the values on the scoreboard. Conventional wisdom is a shortcut from actual thinking. When you rely on the majority to give you career, diet and spiritual advice you avoid thinking about these issues for yourself. Often when you peel off the covering, and start to understand the systems behind it, you can come up with more satisfying and less risky solutions to your problems. You cannot take long term decisions based on what the circumstances look like today. The road you take might seem safe right now, but what about tomorrow, next month, next year? You need to think about the future. You should not lower your expectations to meet your income, you should rise your income to meet your expectations. I’m still finding new tools, but the fact that this list is small shows that self-improvement doesn’t need to be overly complicated. One good tool, if practiced, can debug a large range of problems. Personal development and unconventional choices often lead to the most success. There are a lot of people around you who are secretly working for their dreams. You only see them out doing nothing but they spend their free time working hard. Never forget that. But despite their appearance, they often hold the least risk. So work harder. Take risks. That is the only way.

Spread Love Everywhere You Go


If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love. Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning ‘Good morning’ at total strangers. Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor.Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

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We can bring positive energy into our daily lives by smiling more, talking to strangers in line, replacing handshakes with hugs, and calling our friends just to tell them we love them. When you truly find love, you find yourself because love is the most powerful healing energy. Everything you do with love spreads healing. So feel it,be it, and spread it because the best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer someone else up. Smile is always a smart thing to do, don’t you think? And the reason why this is true is not at all related to the fact that faking a smile is better than standing there with a sad face, like many people seem to think nowadays. On the contrary, a genuine smile can have many shapes and meanings, it can communicate different things, it can be a sign a complicity or simply the expression of pure empathy. You don’t even need to think about it too much: just smile.

Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life. Be kind and merciful. Let no one ever come to you without coming away better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting. In the slums we are the light of God’s kindness to the poor. To children, to the poor, to all who suffer and are lonely, give always a happy smile – Give them not only your care, but also your heart. To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. Never forget that the most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. Give a stranger one of your smiles today. It might be the only sunshine he/she sees all day.

In Every Living Being There Is The Desire For Love


You are worthy of LOVE and AFFECTION, you are never too much and you are always enough,You are beautiful, you are strong, you are worth it.

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Countless times, many of us have gone through troubled waters. Most times, how we approach situations in our lives wholly depends on our view of them and our readiness to emulate the mind of God.  Sometimes, most of us have faced rejection and false judgement from people. We have had to deal with people’s opinions about us and how we live our lives. What some of us may have not yet put in mind is that it all comes down to God. God’s opinion about us is what matters the most. From the biggest to the smallest creature there is a desire to love. It’s interesting to think that each living thing out there is looking for love at its core.Sometimes all it takes it to take a step and make affirmations to falsehood or other types of negatives directed at us. You deserve someone who does not only make you feel better, but makes you want to be better. He supports you and your goals. He’d listen to you blabber about your studies like it’s the most interesting topic in the world. When you’re about to give up, he’d be your cheerleader. He would keep you motivated all the way because you are worth dying for, regardless of who you think you are.

There really isn’t much more to say when you wrap it up so neatly. All a person really needs is love, and that’s all they need. It’s simple and a little repetitive, you deserve to be treated like a choice, not an option. You are not someone’s “maybe”. He would treat you like a priority. He would love you consistently. He would always be there especially whenever you need him. He would make an effort to be with you. He would show you that you are his one and only. The best place to practice love is on oneself. How do we expect to give our love to another if we’ve never really learned how to give love to ourselves first? Self-love is one of the most rewarding, fulfilling, and satisfying forms of love there is. Everything we do comes from a place of either fear or love, and often times we choose to approach our own bodies, minds, and spirits out of a place of fear.We must realize that everyone’s definition of beauty on the outside is going to be different, and if we live our lives trying to make ourselves beautiful on the outside we will quickly forget to develop our person on the inside. Not doing this will allow us to turn into someone we are not, someone that only lives to live up to someone else’s standards instead of our own. Being you in all phases of life is the pure definition of being beautiful, so make an effort to make a positive effect on the world daily. Let everyone see your natural beauty, disregard what you look like on the outside and show someone how good of a place the world could be if we could just let the light inside of ourselves shine. You deserve your own dose of magic. You deserve your own fairy tale. You deserve happiness. And above all else, you deserve these because you are worth it and in every living being there is the desire for love.

Friends Are The Family You Choose


What makes friendship so priceless?  It’s been said that the best things in life are free, and true friends are some of the best things in life that money can’t buy.

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The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship and there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will. When times get hard and the going seems to get tougher to the point to where you want to give up, do the people around you influence you to give up, or do they influence you to keep going. This also should make us examine how good of a friend we are to those around us. Friends come in all shapes and sizes.  A true friend really gets you.  They like your flaws and all.  They know what to say, and more importantly, when to say nothing at all.  When you flip through the collage of people in your life, you may have some people in your corner that you can count on.

Do we encourage, do we persevere with our loved ones, do we believe in our loved ones and give them hope when they are greatly discouraged. If you can answer yes with confidence to all of those questions you are truly a great friend, and if you couldn’t it doesn’t make you any less of a friend, but it should make you realize certain things you may need to start doing to be more than just a good friend, but instead, a great friend. Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.Choose your friends wisely, and that’s one of the best ways to level up in life.  The opposite is also true because friends are the family you choose.

Keep The Picture, They Never Change


They say a picture is worth a thousand words. But I wonder, what else do “they” say? because the best thing about a picture is that it never changes, even when the people in it do.

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They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. As we grow older, some of us may notice that people that we thought would be in our lives forever aren’t there anymore, and as different newcomers enter into our lives the people that we once knew don’t seem to be around. When we progress in life some people will progress with us and help us grow by helping to encourage and inspire us, while others head in other directions with no correlation of the direction that we are heading into.

Sometimes you just have to turn the page to realize there’s more to your book of life than the page you’re stuck on. Stop being afraid to move on. Close this chapter of hurt, and never re-read it. It’s time to get what your life deserves, and move on from the things that don’t deserve you. Don’t try to fix what’s been broken in your past, let your future create something better. Don’t let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future. Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.

People need to be made more aware of the need to work at learning how to live because life is so quick and sometimes it goes away too quickly. Some people are meant to be in our lives forever, and some are meant to be in our lives for a few years, while others may be only be there for a few months. Don’t stress over the people that have come and gone from your life, just remember the good times that you shared with them, and use what you learned from dealing with them to help you progress towards your dreams and aspirations because to make a difference in someone’s life you don’t have to be wise, rich or beautiful…you just have to be there when they need you.

Love Isn’t Complicated, People Are


Love is like a rumor, Everyone talks about it, But no one truly knows. Love cures people, both the one who give it and the one who receive it.
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No one ever loved anyone the way that person wanted to be loved. We just have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts even if they don’t stay in our lives. People do make love more complicated than it should be. Love should be easy and fun. If you are loved and love someone, I see no reason why you should not be happy. The most complicated thing about love is the people that it holds it chains over. When we are bound by love to one another we are saying that despite a persons flaws, we choose to make someone the center of our attention, and the object of our affection. We do this despite realizing that we are human, and as humans we are so unique that we couldn’t possibly be able to agree with someone else every minute of every day. A lot of people just have a complicated picture of what love is or what they think it is and cannot let go of the photo.
Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding. Eventually our human characteristics will get in the way of our love and sparks will fly, whether they be good or bad. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel. So always make sure to prepare for battle at the same time that you prepare your future with someone. Also remember that when we fight for things they are usually worth the fight, a lot of times when we are in a relationship we love, we go through the bad, knowing that the good that we get out of the relationship greatly outweighs anything else. Love is the easiest thing there is. It’s the layers of doubt, fear, and expectation that make it complicated and the heart has reasons that reason does not understand. Always remember that the game of love is complicated, but love is not complicated.

Treating Someone As They Ought To Be


Do not do to others what angers you if done to you by others. If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.
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Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. Throughout history there have been many who have defied those with negative attitudes around them. Because of their willingness to fight against the negative energy around them they were able to leave behind impeccable legacies for the rest of mankind to follow after. In the lives of these great people there were many who stood along their paths being negative and casting opinions of them that could have only tore them down if they had listened.

Don’t be one of these naysayers in the life of anyone. Appreciate people the same way as you want them to appreciate you. And if people start to acknowledge others work, the world can become a better place with so many skilled and knowledgeable people. Appreciation also help individuals to further specialize in their fields. For instance, if you acknowledge a designer, he will not only like “the nice words”, but will also work ever harder so as to maintain the same level of knowledge and creativity.

Never tell someone that they cant accomplish dreams or goals that they truly believe in.. There is a huge difference between criticism that will help a person build versus criticism that will only tear a person down. Throughout life, people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, because hate in your heart will consume you too. Do right. Do your best. Treat others as you want to be treated.

Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people. Choose your words wisely, and be sure that everything that you say or do can be used for good and not for negativity. Be an encouragement!