Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Do not chase people. Be you, do your own thing and work hard. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.
In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Chasing people around in life will be of no benefit to you in the long run. This is mostly because you can’t make people be who you want them to be, people will always do what they truly want to do, deep down inside. What you can do is make extraordinary effort each day to be you, and to do what is in your heart, and work hard at it. The people who deserve to be in your life will come in your life, and not only will they just be a part of your life like the people of your past, but they will stay in your life as well. Cut the slack out of your life, and let go of the people that are only bringing you down. There is no reason to be burdened continually by people who don’t believe in you, when there are people out there that will. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life. Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason to give thanks, the fault lies in yourself because the simplest way to rejoice is to count your blessings and be grateful for them. You will automatically feel Joy in your Heart.
If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough. In a world of plenty where most of us are pre-programmed to strive for more, desire what we don’t have, and lust after what’s faster, better, and stronger, we forget to appreciate what we have. It made me think: what would happen if we could all learn to live with less? What if we could accept the gifts life has to bestow upon us and let what we have be enough? What if we took measures to simply count our blessings everyday? Would we (could we) be happier or more contented? Thankfulness creates gratitude which generates contentment and that causes peace.
Thanksgiving is an outpouring of the very root of the soul. It is a reflection of the heart. It reveals peace. It is the presence of goodwill toward others. It is easy to understand how a person who goes to bed with negative thoughts will be too troubled to sleep well. As I thought about thanksgiving, the ramifications were endless. Thankfulness is key to honoring God, worshiping God, and serving God. It paves the road to a wholesome life, a restful life, a peaceful life—a happy life. Cultivating a godly perspective of our spiritual state and our physical circumstances doesn’t happen naturally. Thanking God for His grace and loving-kindness instead of complaining about our losses takes a great deal of energy and persistence. We need to develop a mindset that looks for God’s grace at all times. Don’t let bitterness eat away all that is joyful and good in your life. Take a good look at yourself instead of looking at others, and declare war on unthankfulness. Always remember that gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.
You must pay for everything in this world one way and another. There is nothing free with the exception of God’s grace. We do bargaining everyday in our life. Every action of ours is followed by an outcome, which is the cost we pay for the action we have taken. Sometimes we do not pay attention to what we are doing, how we are behaving and how that will affect our life. Even small things sometimes make huge difference in our life.
It’s easy to make excuses for why you cannot do things. But nothing in life is free, and not every goal is going to be simple to reach. Regardless of position, situation, or circumstance, if you want something you have to work for it. Isn’t it good to know that you don’t have to be perfect to be used by God. You don’t have to have it all together to accomplish something meaningful and lasting. Nothing is going to come right away, and if you’re looking for a quick-fix for everything, you’re not going to find it and you might as well just give up now if you insist on keeping the same attitude. If life wasn’t challenging, we’d all grow bored. God can take whatever he has already given you to do what he has created you to do before you were ever born. We just have to have the faith to believe that without being perfect and without living up to other’s opinions about us we can live a life that is both dynamic as well as pleasing and acceptable to God. Life isn’t always going to be everything you expect it to be. But you gotta suck it up and stick it out. Be glad you even have a life. So many people have wanted to live theirs and were denied the opportunity. Live yours, without excuses, and with less worry. Just take a breath, grit your teeth, smile, and keep trucking because nothing in life worth having comes easy. Nothing in life that is worth having is free. Nothing in life worth having is not without a fight.
When admiring other people’s gardens, don’t forget to tend to your own flowers because our lifestyle communicates a clear message about who we are and how we think.
Your life is a movie. You are the main character. You say your scripts and act to your lines. Of course you do your lines in each scene. There is a hidden camera and a director who you can ask for help anytime up above. Everything about us is sending a message to others about our level of intensity as well. The things we do, the things we say, even our appearance, suggests an inner attitude about life. If we are spending more money on donuts than we do on books, that suggests something about the sincerity of our desire for personal progress. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. The way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything that happens to you. When you change the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life, sometimes instantly. You have complete control over only one thing in the universe your thinking. You can decide what you are going to think in any given situation. Your thoughts and feelings determine your actions and determine the results you get. It all starts with your thoughts.
Everyone dreams but not everyone does because many of us dream of becoming wealthy, of having a beautiful home that is tended by others so that we will be free to enjoy ourselves. We dream of winning lotteries that will enable us to quit our jobs tomorrow and go off in pursuit of the good life. We dream of chauffeurs to drive us and servants to take care of us so that we can have all the time in the world to do whatever we want to do. Our brains are wired to find things we’re looking for if you’re always cynical or waiting for things to go wrong, then your life will reflect that. On the other hand, having a positive outlook on life will bring you joy and provide you with inspiration when you least expect it. Of course, there are times when it’s difficult to feel cheery or positive life can be difficult. It is when you lose sight of yourself, that you lose your way. To keep your truth in sight you must keep yourself in sight and the world to you should be a mirror to reflect to you your image; the world should be a mirror that you reflect upon. Also the people with whom you work reflect your own attitude. If you are suspicious, unfriendly and condescending, you will find these unlovely traits echoed all about you. But if you are on your best behavior, you will bring out the best in the persons with whom you are going to spend most of your working hours. If we wish to be wealthy, we must study wealth, and if we wish to be happy, we must study happiness. The combination of these two studies create the aura that we call lifestyle. Stop trying to be less of who you are. Let this time in your life cut you open and drain all of the things that are holding you back.
What makes friendship so priceless? It’s been said that the best things in life are free, and true friends are some of the best things in life that money can’t buy.
The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship and there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will. When times get hard and the going seems to get tougher to the point to where you want to give up, do the people around you influence you to give up, or do they influence you to keep going. This also should make us examine how good of a friend we are to those around us. Friends come in all shapes and sizes. A true friend really gets you. They like your flaws and all. They know what to say, and more importantly, when to say nothing at all. When you flip through the collage of people in your life, you may have some people in your corner that you can count on.
Do we encourage, do we persevere with our loved ones, do we believe in our loved ones and give them hope when they are greatly discouraged. If you can answer yes with confidence to all of those questions you are truly a great friend, and if you couldn’t it doesn’t make you any less of a friend, but it should make you realize certain things you may need to start doing to be more than just a good friend, but instead, a great friend. Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.Choose your friends wisely, and that’s one of the best ways to level up in life. The opposite is also true because friends are the family you choose.
One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul because when you finally let go of the past something better comes along.
Life happens ‘for you’ not to you. When you can be grateful for the person you have become and what you now have in your life, it makes it much easier to let go of anger, hate and resentment. Our past experiences are in our past for a reason, and though it is important to learn from these experiences, it is also a must to realize that there are no do-over of your past, and more importantly to live in the right now aiming high towards your future. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
When an experience in your life has emotional significance, it gets tagged in your brain as being important. Be honest and ask yourself what benefits you get from not letting go of the past, of not forgiving and staying stuck. Perhaps you don’t have to put yourself out there and face rejection, criticism or judgement. Perhaps you enjoy complaining to your friends or family about how bad things are – you get their undivided attention and for just a few moments the world is about you! Are you worried that change could mean losing some friends? Perhaps staying stuck means you can continue with the poor diet and you get to eat whatever you want. In order to set your sights on what is in front of you and not whats behind you, it is a must to set goals, and to work hard towards your future. Sure memories of your past will arise every once in a while, some good and some bad. Use your past successes and memories as a blueprint to build upon to make your future. Use the negative experiences of your past such as failure to fuel your motivation to succeed in the future! So stop focusing on the negatives and everything that could go wrong, and start thinking of what could go right. Better yet, think of everything that already is right. Be thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and past dreams and goals that turned into realities. And use this mindset of positivity to fuel an even brighter today and tomorrow. Life can be easier, but only when you decide you are ready to let go.
We are all created equal with special gifts and if we reach out to each other in sharing these gifts, we all become richer because the smallest good deed is worth a thousand grand intentions and it takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.
Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give. Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery. A kindly act once in a while isn’t enough. You have to act the Good Samaritan every day, if need be. It may mean the loss of many nights’ sleep, great interference with your pleasures, interruptions to your business. Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family. This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving because there is no delight in owning anything unshared. It is pride when we feel that we are unusually well equipped to help the new man, forgetting our own early days, and overlooking the possibility that we may need help tomorrow. It is pride when we regard help to another as our good deed of the month and not as medicine for our own ailment which is only arrested and not cured.
Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help. Giving with glad and generous hearts has a way of routing out the tough old miser within us. Even the poor need to know that they can give. Just the very act of letting go of money, or some other treasure, does something within us. It destroys the demon greed. It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself and we need to know that if you are not generous with a meager income, you will never be generous with abundance. Love only grows by sharing and you can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others. Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness to others; so never hesitate to go anywhere if you can be helpful because your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world. Always remember that your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts. One must be poor to know the luxury of giving.