Finally Letting Go Of The Past

One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul because when you finally let go of the past something better comes along.
Life happens ‘for you’ not to you. When you can be grateful for the person you have become and what you now have in your life, it makes it much easier to let go of anger, hate and resentment. Our past experiences are in our past for a reason, and though it is important to learn from these experiences, it is also a must to realize that there are no do-over of your past, and more importantly to live in the right now aiming high towards your future. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

When an experience in your life has emotional significance, it gets tagged in your brain as being important. Be honest and ask yourself what benefits you get from not letting go of the past, of not forgiving and staying stuck. Perhaps you don’t have to put yourself out there and face rejection, criticism or judgement. Perhaps you enjoy complaining to your friends or family about how bad things are –  you get their undivided attention and for just a few moments the world is about you! Are you worried that change could mean losing some friends? Perhaps staying stuck means you can continue with the poor diet and you get to eat whatever you want. In order to set your sights on what is in front of you and not whats behind you, it is a must to set goals, and to work hard towards your future. Sure memories of your past will arise every once in a while, some good and some bad. Use your past successes and memories as a blueprint to build upon to make your future. Use the negative experiences of your past such as failure to fuel your motivation to succeed in the future! So stop focusing on the negatives and everything that could go wrong, and start thinking of what could go right.  Better yet, think of everything that already is right.  Be thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and past dreams and goals that turned into realities.  And use this mindset of positivity to fuel an even brighter today and tomorrow. Life can be easier, but only when you decide you are ready to let go.

Be Strong, Believe In Who You Are…

Each person’s success and happiness, both now and in the eternities, depend largely on his or her responses to the difficulties of life. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Be strong, believe in who you are; be strong, believe in what you feel.


If God sends us on strong paths, we are provided strong shoes. Going through and overcoming adversity is character building, it is one of the aspects of life that shapes us into the human being we are today, and will be in the future. It provides us with experience, the confidence to overcome, opportunities and a kind of coping mechanism to deal with things that don’t go our way, which in life, is inevitable. Adversity comes from different sources. Trials may come as a consequence of a person’s own pride and disobedience. But sometimes we think holding on makes us strong but sometimes it is letting go. To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.

Build upon strengths, and weaknesses will gradually take care of themselves. When some people face adversity, they complain and become bitter. They ask questions like “Why does this have to happen to me? Why do I have to suffer this now? What have I done to deserve this?” But these questions have the power to dominate their thoughts. Such questions can overtake their vision, absorb their energy, and deprive them of the experiences the Lord wants them to receive. Rather than responding in this way, people should consider asking questions such as, “What am I to do? What am I to learn from this experience? What am I to change? Whom am I to help? How can I remember my many blessings in times of trial?”The depth and strength of a human character are defined by its moral reserves. People reveal themselves completely only when they are thrown out of the customary conditions of their life, for only then do they have to fall back on their reserves. We need to remember always that change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.

In All Things There Is Healing

Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity. In all things there is healing. Broken hearts, broken lives, there is no way around them. But you don’t have to live broken. Maybe broken is all you’ve ever known, but there is healing. You just have to ask for it. You just have to let the maker of your life clean up your wounds and bring you back to life.
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds, your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a new great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.
Sometimes after we experience painful situations in life, we have to come to realize that getting past them in our minds completely will just take some time. In this time one thing that is very helpful to allow us to cope and to grieve with the pain of losing someone or something in our lives that we expected to be there forever is that if we work on ourselves, and improve spiritually, emotionally, and physically, we will help ourselves to realize that we are made better because of what we have been through, and that life doesn’t stop just because certain circumstances have made their way into our lives.

Getting over losing something that was very important to us, is a very challenging time for anyone, pain is never easy to cope with, but never let these times break you, be strengthened by what you have lost, and allow yourself to gain from these experiences. Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.

Life Goes On

In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself. Letting go and moving on are key principles to learning how to navigate life effectively. When we realize exactly when to let go of the negative things in our pasts, we develop a sense of wisdom that we didn’t have before.
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. As long as you have more breaths to take, and as long as you have the free will to make good decisions in your life, nothing can hold you back except yourself. Life goes on and we have to be willing to go on with it.When it’s time to move on we must dare ourselves to be at the forefront of life’s waves, navigating with the hope that our future will be better than our pasts because of our willingness to put behind us the things that hold us back.

The only thing a person can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that big leap forward without hesitation, without once looking back. Simply forget the past and forge toward the future. Don’t pout and let your past anger you. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit. Let your past teach you how to be strong. Learn from what you have been through, and move on. One thing always sure. Life go on with you or without you, no matter how much you seen.

You Are What You Choose To Become

You don’t buy all the clothes in the market. You choose slowly and carefully, asking the prices for each before buying. The same way you choose your friends, by looking into their lives carefully, before taking any as a companion, then dropping those that are not relevant. Happiness can be found even in the darkest times if one only remembers to turn on the light.


Every decision you make, makes you. Never let other people choose who you’re going to be. Living with the pain and fear of the past is not simple. We all have different sets of experiences and getting past emotional pain can be very difficult according to what we went through. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. A key principle to abide by in life is knowing to keep a positive attitude no matter what your past is. There are many new opportunities within your reach in any circumstance, you just have to be willing to rid our own eyes with the judgment of what you put yourself through, and dealing with your reality in an upfront way that will help you to tackle and bury the problems of the past.

Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. Forgive yourself, never forget what happened, and use the experience to learn about what you may do in the future when similar situations arise. Never make the same mistakes repeatedly, and remember that once things happen, they are finished. There is no point in living in situations that cant be changed. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it.

There Is Beauty In Waking Away

A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves you a hundred moments of regret. Some of the very things that we hold on to the most, are the very things that we need to let go of.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Knowing when to walk away is key in your self development journey. Many people lose out on opportunities because they are stuck in trying to make things work that aren’t for them to make work.

Whatever it is, moving on can be tough.  In fact, one of the toughest things in the world, is to move on.  If you’ve ever ever been inconsolable, letting go in many instances will create significant gains in a persons life because it will provide them with the freedom that they need to become who they are meant to be.

We either try harder or we walk away from being present, loving ourselves, loving another, pursuing our passions or completing a task. We choose to continue doing, thinking, saying, listening, eating and being what we are, or we break up with it. If you are finding yourself frustrated in your situation time and time again, it may be time to let go. This doesn’t mean that you are weak, and this doesn’t mean that you aren’t courageous. Letting go at the right time actually means the opposite. It takes great strength, courage, and wisdom to remove the dead weight from your life because often this dead weight took a lot of time and effort to accumulate.

Life is one struggle after the next, a battery of choices every day, “Do I stay or do I leave?” We liberate ourselves when we understand our emancipation is granted when we abide by one commandment: Thou shall not struggle against struggle. It’s simple, but it’s not easy: Do not make more struggle. We are released from bondage when we know, regardless if we stay or go, we have the choice to stay or go. We are in charge of our own suffering. We can walk away from it when we wish.
No storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass, not to stay. Don’t worry! No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever. Remember its better to have a broken heart once, than it is to have a broken heart repeatedly because you refused to walk away.

Every Accomplishment Starts With A Decision To Try

Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.
Making great choices is what leads great people into great lives. Often when making choices we are affected by the factors and influences of our immediate environments and forget to take our own desires into account.

This thoughtless attitude may seem very harmless at first but as time ticks on, people who continue to make the bad choices end up lost in a sea of unhappiness. When we live life going against our better judgment doing things that we know we shouldn’t be we are consciously choosing to limit our own growth!

Improve your life now and in the future by developing the habit of making better choices in your life when the opportunities to do so are presented to you. Think about everything you do, and pay special attention to all of the things you do that have seemed to be detrimental to your life in the past.

Think about the success you want to see in your life, and choose to go get it!

Not Everyone You Lose Is A Loss

Not everyone you lose is a loss.
Learning to love makes us deal with loss in a very upfront way. Many times we try to hold on to love when doing so only digs the hole of despair deeper for our own lives.

Moving on from a person whom you really love can be painful. Things get tough when you realize that the person you wish to spend a lifetime with isn’t a person that you can ever grow with.

Devoting your time and energy towards a person or situation that you will never be able to change alone, is a maddening process. This insane method of trying to manipulate a situation into what you want it to be often never works because it is almost impossible to change a person who doesn’t desire to do so.

Let the pain and weight of the loved one who refuses to change leave your life, or you will never find true peace or happiness.

Stop Going Back To The One That Brings You More Pain Than Happiness

Stop going back to the one who brings you more pain than happiness. It’s not worth it to continue to invest your feelings into somebody unworthy of your love. 
Life is ultimately filled with events that may cause us great difficulty and great pain. There are going to be people in our lives that we thought would always be there for us that disappear. There are going to be people that seem to never grow that expect us to not progress with them, and get angry when we seek progress. 

There are going to be those who we must cut off if we are going to make efforts to be a success in our lives. Never use this as an excuse to hurt someone back. Remember that none of your achievements will mean anything until you have been able to overcome things in your life that helped to stay in your way. Bad things will always happen, it is up to you to decide how to handle every thing within your control, and whether to simply move on, or act in a manner that will make you look and feel as a bad person.

There Are Far Better Things Ahead Than Any We Leave Behind

There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind. 


Choose to look ahead. Think about it. If we chose to navigate our cars and drive forward, while focusing intently on the rearview mirror, chances are we are in for a big accident and a big amount of destruction. This is a great analogy for how we should live our lives as well. If we choose to live our lives in the hopes of moving forward, but with our hearts focused on the past, sooner than later we will wreck our lives. 

The past is the past for a reason, and that reason was to help make you who are now, and to help give you the drive to become the person you ultimately want to become. Remember that there are always far better things ahead of us in our lives than there are that we were forced to leave behind us. Move on from what was, so that you can better focus on what is, and what will be.