When an experience in your life has emotional significance, it gets tagged in your brain as being important. Be honest and ask yourself what benefits you get from not letting go of the past, of not forgiving and staying stuck. Perhaps you don’t have to put yourself out there and face rejection, criticism or judgement. Perhaps you enjoy complaining to your friends or family about how bad things are – you get their undivided attention and for just a few moments the world is about you! Are you worried that change could mean losing some friends? Perhaps staying stuck means you can continue with the poor diet and you get to eat whatever you want. In order to set your sights on what is in front of you and not whats behind you, it is a must to set goals, and to work hard towards your future. Sure memories of your past will arise every once in a while, some good and some bad. Use your past successes and memories as a blueprint to build upon to make your future. Use the negative experiences of your past such as failure to fuel your motivation to succeed in the future! So stop focusing on the negatives and everything that could go wrong, and start thinking of what could go right. Better yet, think of everything that already is right. Be thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and past dreams and goals that turned into realities. And use this mindset of positivity to fuel an even brighter today and tomorrow. Life can be easier, but only when you decide you are ready to let go.
Each person’s success and happiness, both now and in the eternities, depend largely on his or her responses to the difficulties of life. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Be strong, believe in who you are; be strong, believe in what you feel.
If God sends us on strong paths, we are provided strong shoes. Going through and overcoming adversity is character building, it is one of the aspects of life that shapes us into the human being we are today, and will be in the future. It provides us with experience, the confidence to overcome, opportunities and a kind of coping mechanism to deal with things that don’t go our way, which in life, is inevitable. Adversity comes from different sources. Trials may come as a consequence of a person’s own pride and disobedience. But sometimes we think holding on makes us strong but sometimes it is letting go. To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.
Build upon strengths, and weaknesses will gradually take care of themselves. When some people face adversity, they complain and become bitter. They ask questions like “Why does this have to happen to me? Why do I have to suffer this now? What have I done to deserve this?” But these questions have the power to dominate their thoughts. Such questions can overtake their vision, absorb their energy, and deprive them of the experiences the Lord wants them to receive. Rather than responding in this way, people should consider asking questions such as, “What am I to do? What am I to learn from this experience? What am I to change? Whom am I to help? How can I remember my many blessings in times of trial?”The depth and strength of a human character are defined by its moral reserves. People reveal themselves completely only when they are thrown out of the customary conditions of their life, for only then do they have to fall back on their reserves. We need to remember always that change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.
Getting over losing something that was very important to us, is a very challenging time for anyone, pain is never easy to cope with, but never let these times break you, be strengthened by what you have lost, and allow yourself to gain from these experiences. Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.
In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself. Letting go and moving on are key principles to learning how to navigate life effectively. When we realize exactly when to let go of the negative things in our pasts, we develop a sense of wisdom that we didn’t have before.
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. As long as you have more breaths to take, and as long as you have the free will to make good decisions in your life, nothing can hold you back except yourself. Life goes on and we have to be willing to go on with it.When it’s time to move on we must dare ourselves to be at the forefront of life’s waves, navigating with the hope that our future will be better than our pasts because of our willingness to put behind us the things that hold us back.
The only thing a person can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that big leap forward without hesitation, without once looking back. Simply forget the past and forge toward the future. Don’t pout and let your past anger you. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit. Let your past teach you how to be strong. Learn from what you have been through, and move on. One thing always sure. Life go on with you or without you, no matter how much you seen.
You don’t buy all the clothes in the market. You choose slowly and carefully, asking the prices for each before buying. The same way you choose your friends, by looking into their lives carefully, before taking any as a companion, then dropping those that are not relevant. Happiness can be found even in the darkest times if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. A key principle to abide by in life is knowing to keep a positive attitude no matter what your past is. There are many new opportunities within your reach in any circumstance, you just have to be willing to rid our own eyes with the judgment of what you put yourself through, and dealing with your reality in an upfront way that will help you to tackle and bury the problems of the past.
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. Forgive yourself, never forget what happened, and use the experience to learn about what you may do in the future when similar situations arise. Never make the same mistakes repeatedly, and remember that once things happen, they are finished. There is no point in living in situations that cant be changed. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it.
Whatever it is, moving on can be tough. In fact, one of the toughest things in the world, is to move on. If you’ve ever ever been inconsolable, letting go in many instances will create significant gains in a persons life because it will provide them with the freedom that they need to become who they are meant to be.
We either try harder or we walk away from being present, loving ourselves, loving another, pursuing our passions or completing a task. We choose to continue doing, thinking, saying, listening, eating and being what we are, or we break up with it. If you are finding yourself frustrated in your situation time and time again, it may be time to let go. This doesn’t mean that you are weak, and this doesn’t mean that you aren’t courageous. Letting go at the right time actually means the opposite. It takes great strength, courage, and wisdom to remove the dead weight from your life because often this dead weight took a lot of time and effort to accumulate.
This thoughtless attitude may seem very harmless at first but as time ticks on, people who continue to make the bad choices end up lost in a sea of unhappiness. When we live life going against our better judgment doing things that we know we shouldn’t be we are consciously choosing to limit our own growth!
Improve your life now and in the future by developing the habit of making better choices in your life when the opportunities to do so are presented to you. Think about everything you do, and pay special attention to all of the things you do that have seemed to be detrimental to your life in the past.
Think about the success you want to see in your life, and choose to go get it!