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Succeeding by Choice


When you are presented with a clear path toward a goal you would not have chosen for yourself, it’s important to check your motives. Achieving success in life isn’t just about intelligence, competence or experience. The key to beating your competition and succeeding is the ‘winning attitude.’

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In every moment we can pick a new direction – how to act, how to react, how others’ moods, as well as how these decisions will affect you and how you will affect others. These choices are not made only once but every moment of every day. These decisions mould and sculpt your experiences and actions in the moment and eventually your day and life. When things happen that are not to your liking you can either allow them to bring you down or choose to find the opportunities in them. Your initial decision is what matters. Your choice to “do it” screams messages of hope and belief in yourself. Don’t get me wrong, not having things turn out the way you hoped totally stinks! But don’t let that beat you down and keep you there. Remember that your effort to make it happen is the most important part. Your time on this planet is very short. The more you put on your plate, the faster your time will go. The less time you’ll have for those things which matter most because a lot of people don’t do well simply because they major in minor things.

If you lack a clear and compelling vision, you will frequently be swayed by lesser goals. In such a case, you’ll be driven by achievement and/or external validation. Hence, there is an enormous difference between true success and achievement. Success is how you feel about yourself, and can only comes from living in alignment with who you truly want to be. Achievement is an external indicator of something you’ve done, which in itself doesn’t qualify you for success. You can only be successful spending as little time as possible on things you hate. It’s all about the right attitude. When life presents its numerous challenges, you begin to lose faith in your abilities. It is then that positive attitude helps you navigate all the difficulties and face the challenges boldly. It makes you better equipped to overcome the odds and puts you back on the road to success. Nothing happens unless you choose to act now. Change happens in the moment, not over time. The effect of what we choose, of the changes we have made, happen over time and we get to choose again and again in the moment.

 

 

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You are the Masterpiece of God Creativity


What makes you different is what makes you stronger. You are a masterpiece uniquely designed by God. You can have tremendous victories, love, and abundance.

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I find it incredibly amazing how at every sunset, the sky is a different shade. No cloud is ever in the same place. Each day is a new masterpiece. A new wonder. A new memory. Your thought should be creative and not destructive; it should be full of hope and faith for a more excellent future because you are God’s masterpiece. You are His finest, most beautiful work of art. He created you in His image. He created you perfect so stop treating yourself like a shattered piece. Sometimes, we take His perfection and make a big mess out of ourselves and our lives. We humans in our fallen state are messy. We are imperfect. Therefore, we desperately need the Ultimate Artist to take the scraps, the ephemera, the torn pieces of our hearts and lives, and make them into a beautiful work of art. How far you go in life and in your career is dependent on how far you can think good thoughts because your future is dependent on your thought today, therefore think good and lovely thoughts now.

Always set your mind to think thoughts of victory even before the battle begins, this way you will experience limitless possibilities. Your life today and tomorrow is patterned alongside your thoughts. You are therefore advised to create good and wonderful thoughts today so they will deliver a beautiful tomorrow for you. Our thoughts create our lifestyle, if you live healthy, it means you think healthy thoughts and if you think unhealthy thoughts, it will reflect in your health and lifestyle too. When your thought is right, your imaginations will be colourful; you will then dream and not have nightmares. Don’t give up on your greatest masterpiece — You. Think on blessings and not curses, beauty not ugliness, health not sickness. Meditate on wealth not poverty, success not failure, grace not disgrace and use the powerful tool of thought and develop your mindset to believing and knowing you can change anything to your favour; yes, you have God`s Word so fashion your thought according to God`s Word.

Put A Smile On Someone’s Face This Season


This Christmas, I encourage you to give back and put a smile on someone’s face if you are able to. Every day when we pray, we ask for something good to happen to our lives. We seek refuge and hope that someone will come to help lighten our burdens each day. Sometimes too we look around and see people suffering around us. We hope that someone who can help them would do something and make them less miserable. The truth is, the world can be a better place if everyone spoke less about how much the world needs to change for the better but instead did something about it.

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Most days, it’s easy to stay focused on our own lives. Our work, our problems, what we have to accomplish and what is stressing us out. But it’s easy to forget that everyone else in the world has just as much on their plate as we do – sometimes even more. During this season especially, it’s important to remember that every person you come in contact with has their own story and their own reasons for celebrating the season. So before you let the holiday madness stress you out and get the best of you, remember that everyone is fighting their own cold, snowy battle. You can be a blessing to others by speaking kind words, volunteering in your community, giving to charity, sharing things, giving food, sharing your testimony, praying for someone in need, listening to someone, etc.

There is always an opportunity to bless someone. The more we seek to bless others, God will provide for us and open more doors to accomplish His will. Money isn’t the only way to make a difference. Unfortunately, this idea is often what keeps many people from getting involved. They think that, because they don’t have tons of extra money to donate or invest, they have no way to help. But I saw the opposite of this more than ever this holiday season. There is always an opportunity to help others if you just lift your hands and reach out to do so. A blessing is not just money or any material thing that people wish for. The best blessing is you sharing yourself with the world. Remember never to pass up a chance to help someone in need. No matter how simple the task is, every little act of kindness counts. And when other people see how doing good works for you, they will do the same.

Be Soft, Do Not Let The World Make You Hard


Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride. Even though the rest of the world may disagree you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
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If you can do no good, at least do no harm because it takes faith and hope to be soft after people have hurt you so much but we can’t blame our hurt on the world if we are strong enough to endure the pain then you are strong enough to hold on to your faith and most of all hold the hope. Basically we are all just trying to muddle through the day with as much dignity as possible, and it’s nice to think that somewhere there are people who are capable of more. When we see impressive people, we desperately want their guidance. We want to hear what they, who seem so much wiser than their peers, have to say. We all have experienced things in life that have given us a sort of thick skin, or as some may say pain that has caused up to put up a guard. Protecting ourselves is just part of our human nature, naturally no one wants to be hurt, and when we realize the things that hurt us we tend to stay away from them, or if we do go around the things that have made us hurt before, we go around them skeptically, sometimes with the intent to cause those things the pain that they may have caused us. Our natural human instincts of survival may be correlated with the way we treat our relationships. Since many of us have been hurt, some of us go about relationships skeptically, and with the intentions of hurting someone before they may have a chance of hurting us. It is important to remember that keeping a guard is fine, but to also trust your heart. Remember that the world is still a beautiful place and there are still nice people in it, sometimes you just have to take a chance and  never forget that ” Joy Cometh in the morning ” regardless of how dark it seems now because a purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved. There is no reason why good cannot triumph as often as evil. The triumph of anything is a matter of organization.

Forgiveness Is A Life Long Commitment


A restored relationship gives glory to God. It can become even better after suffering through affliction, betrayal, and sin. Love is the healing balm that makes this possible. Forgiveness is a promise, not a feeling. When you forgive other people, you are making a promise not to use their past sins against them.
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We cannot however change people, or their reaction to our sin. We can only work on changing ourselves with God’s grace. Forgiveness is a major part of life that almost everyone has trouble doing. Learning to forgive someone that has wronged us is a very long and difficult process that must be done. Without forgiveness we can not let go of the bitterness and resentment we have towards someone, and without letting go of these things, they start to eat back at us spiritually, emotionally, and eventually physically. When we remain angry for extended periods of time it definitely takes a toll on our bodies, for example, with a rise in blood pressure. We have to learn to forgive and move on from the past sins that people have committed against us in order to further our lives, and in order to continue a relationship with them if we plan on continuing to do so. Our promise to others is never to bring up that sin against that person again not to God, not to the person who committed it, not to anyone else. It is a deliberate decision to deal with another’s sin by doing away with it, pressing the delete button, wiping it off our slate. Make a commitment today to forgive all of those you may be angry with, and that may have done you wrong, this past year and your whole life. Whenever you think of the way that someone has wronged you wish a blessing upon them instead of cursing them, and stay as positive as possible. Not only is forgiveness our promise to others, but it’s also a promise God has made to us.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies. I think too often we wait to forgive. We wait until it feels right to do so. But forgiveness is not a feeling at all. If we wait until we feel like forgiving, it will never happen. Forgiveness is more about wiping away a debt. It is saying to a person, “You owe me nothing more; no money, no apology, no hugs, no sympathy cards, nothing. I really am no longer looking for any of that from you, you are released from any moral or ethical or legal obligations to me for this pain as much as is possible, we are going to move forward now and I will not be holding this over you any longer, waiting to hit you on the head with it if you mess up again. I will not be keeping score because where I am concerned your slate is now wiped clean. I wish the very best for you and God’s blessings on you.” Forgiveness isn’t something we wait to feel, it is something we communicate to the person who hurt us irrespective of how we feel. So while trust may be a process, the promise of forgiveness is not. But though trust and forgiveness are two different things, there is a definite relationship between them. Making the promise of forgiveness is what triggers the beginning of the trust process. Without forgiveness, there can be no more trust. But once forgiveness is given, the process of trusting again begins. Forgiveness takes a broken relationship and places it back on track for the healing process to begin. It is the first step in the healing journey. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.

Your Lifestyle Reflect Who You Are


When admiring other people’s gardens, don’t forget to tend to your own flowers because our lifestyle communicates a clear message about who we are and how we think.

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Your life is a movie. You are the main character. You say your scripts and act to your lines. Of course you do your lines in each scene. There is a hidden camera and a director who you can ask for help anytime up above. Everything about us is sending a message to others about our level of intensity as well. The things we do, the things we say, even our appearance, suggests an inner attitude about life. If we are spending more money on donuts than we do on books, that suggests something about the sincerity of our desire for personal progress. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. The way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything that happens to you. When you change the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life, sometimes instantly. You have complete control over only one thing in the universe your thinking. You can decide what you are going to think in any given situation. Your thoughts and feelings determine your actions and determine the results you get. It all starts with your thoughts.

Everyone dreams but not everyone does because many of us dream of becoming wealthy, of having a beautiful home that is tended by others so that we will be free to enjoy ourselves. We dream of winning lotteries that will enable us to quit our jobs tomorrow and go off in pursuit of the good life. We dream of chauffeurs to drive us and servants to take care of us so that we can have all the time in the world to do whatever we want to do. Our brains are wired to find things we’re looking for if you’re always cynical or waiting for things to go wrong, then your life will reflect that. On the other hand, having a positive outlook on life will bring you joy and provide you with inspiration when you least expect it. Of course, there are times when it’s difficult to feel cheery or positive life can be difficult. It is when you lose sight of yourself, that you lose your way. To keep your truth in sight you must keep yourself in sight and the world to you should be a mirror to reflect to you your image; the world should be a mirror that you reflect upon. Also the people with whom you work reflect your own attitude. If you are suspicious, unfriendly and condescending, you will find these unlovely traits echoed all about you. But if you are on your best behavior, you will bring out the best in the persons with whom you are going to spend most of your working hours. If we wish to be wealthy, we must study wealth, and if we wish to be happy, we must study happiness. The combination of these two studies create the aura that we call lifestyle. Stop trying to be less of who you are. Let this time in your life cut you open and drain all of the things that are holding you back.

Finally Letting Go Of The Past


One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul because when you finally let go of the past something better comes along.
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Life happens ‘for you’ not to you. When you can be grateful for the person you have become and what you now have in your life, it makes it much easier to let go of anger, hate and resentment. Our past experiences are in our past for a reason, and though it is important to learn from these experiences, it is also a must to realize that there are no do-over of your past, and more importantly to live in the right now aiming high towards your future. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

When an experience in your life has emotional significance, it gets tagged in your brain as being important. Be honest and ask yourself what benefits you get from not letting go of the past, of not forgiving and staying stuck. Perhaps you don’t have to put yourself out there and face rejection, criticism or judgement. Perhaps you enjoy complaining to your friends or family about how bad things are –  you get their undivided attention and for just a few moments the world is about you! Are you worried that change could mean losing some friends? Perhaps staying stuck means you can continue with the poor diet and you get to eat whatever you want. In order to set your sights on what is in front of you and not whats behind you, it is a must to set goals, and to work hard towards your future. Sure memories of your past will arise every once in a while, some good and some bad. Use your past successes and memories as a blueprint to build upon to make your future. Use the negative experiences of your past such as failure to fuel your motivation to succeed in the future! So stop focusing on the negatives and everything that could go wrong, and start thinking of what could go right.  Better yet, think of everything that already is right.  Be thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and past dreams and goals that turned into realities.  And use this mindset of positivity to fuel an even brighter today and tomorrow. Life can be easier, but only when you decide you are ready to let go.