You Can Make A Different This Season


Christmas is my favorite time of the year! There are different ways to practice kindness this season. One way to be kind is to open your eyes and be active when you see people in need. Do you notice when people around us needs a helping hand? A sense of community is created when people are kind to those who need help. Sometimes people just need to hear some encouraging and kind words in order to bring a smile to their face, so why not just do it already? Being kind to someone could change their entire day if you let it. Try and put this to the test by complimenting someone today, or maybe even reach out to one of your friends and let them know that you are proud of them. The little things mean the most to people and go a long way, so be kind to others and get some good karma on your side.

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People may not remember what you said, or what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Why not leave them with something positive this season. The holidays arrive each year with an abundance of expectations. We’re expected to be having fun and feeling joy, to be surrounded by loved ones and a warm, connected family to which we effortlessly belong. We’re expected to be busy and enjoying all sorts of exciting and festive activities, doing special holiday things. In short, we’re expected to be happy…well, actually, not just happy, happier than we are at any other time of the year. There are people out there who struggle every single day to get out of bed and do normal life things, so if they hear something negative, it could set them over the edge. That is why I think it is crucial for people to be kind to others and just learn to stop being so mean and hateful. The truth is, many people do not have warm and loving families to go home to, relatives with whom they feel they genuinely belong. Many are not busy with exciting and interesting things to do throughout the season. And the fact that they aren’t having the holiday season they’re expected to have makes them feel even worse about themselves — less joyful and less happy. It can be as simple as a smiling at someone, giving up your old wears to someone who cannot afford it, or buying food for the hungry, homeless man. It’s a way of connecting, if only for a short moment, with those people we pass in our daily lives. Everyone is affected by an act of kindness. Kindness is contagious and you never know just how big of an impact a small gesture of kindness can have.

There are many ways to be kind and many opportunities to practice. Perhaps kindness is a value that could add more satisfaction to and strengthen your relationships. It doesn’t have to cost anything, either; what’s important is that it’s an act of expressing genuine care for another person. In fact, there’s no limit to the ways in which we can be kind to others – all we need to do is pay attention to those around us and start seeing opportunities to help! Whatever it might be for you, give yourself the space to honor the transition that this season brings and to welcome its gifts with open arms. We must reorient ourselves towards kindness, compassion, service, love, and simplicity — the qualities that this season’s teachings are all about.

Forgiveness Is A Life Long Commitment


A restored relationship gives glory to God. It can become even better after suffering through affliction, betrayal, and sin. Love is the healing balm that makes this possible. Forgiveness is a promise, not a feeling. When you forgive other people, you are making a promise not to use their past sins against them.
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We cannot however change people, or their reaction to our sin. We can only work on changing ourselves with God’s grace. Forgiveness is a major part of life that almost everyone has trouble doing. Learning to forgive someone that has wronged us is a very long and difficult process that must be done. Without forgiveness we can not let go of the bitterness and resentment we have towards someone, and without letting go of these things, they start to eat back at us spiritually, emotionally, and eventually physically. When we remain angry for extended periods of time it definitely takes a toll on our bodies, for example, with a rise in blood pressure. We have to learn to forgive and move on from the past sins that people have committed against us in order to further our lives, and in order to continue a relationship with them if we plan on continuing to do so. Our promise to others is never to bring up that sin against that person again not to God, not to the person who committed it, not to anyone else. It is a deliberate decision to deal with another’s sin by doing away with it, pressing the delete button, wiping it off our slate. Make a commitment today to forgive all of those you may be angry with, and that may have done you wrong, this past year and your whole life. Whenever you think of the way that someone has wronged you wish a blessing upon them instead of cursing them, and stay as positive as possible. Not only is forgiveness our promise to others, but it’s also a promise God has made to us.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies. I think too often we wait to forgive. We wait until it feels right to do so. But forgiveness is not a feeling at all. If we wait until we feel like forgiving, it will never happen. Forgiveness is more about wiping away a debt. It is saying to a person, “You owe me nothing more; no money, no apology, no hugs, no sympathy cards, nothing. I really am no longer looking for any of that from you, you are released from any moral or ethical or legal obligations to me for this pain as much as is possible, we are going to move forward now and I will not be holding this over you any longer, waiting to hit you on the head with it if you mess up again. I will not be keeping score because where I am concerned your slate is now wiped clean. I wish the very best for you and God’s blessings on you.” Forgiveness isn’t something we wait to feel, it is something we communicate to the person who hurt us irrespective of how we feel. So while trust may be a process, the promise of forgiveness is not. But though trust and forgiveness are two different things, there is a definite relationship between them. Making the promise of forgiveness is what triggers the beginning of the trust process. Without forgiveness, there can be no more trust. But once forgiveness is given, the process of trusting again begins. Forgiveness takes a broken relationship and places it back on track for the healing process to begin. It is the first step in the healing journey. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.

The Only TimeYou Should Look Back Is To See How Far You’ve Come.


Learning from past experience is good. but there is a limit. always brooding in past can actually cause damage to us. Our eyes are in front because it is better to look ahead than to look back. Don’t dwell on things from the past. Learn from them and keep moving forward.  The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.
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Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us. Looking ahead is one of the most difficult concepts for humans to grasp as we advance in this journey that we call life. Little do we realize that when we look back, we slow ourselves down from progressing forward. Try something for me. Try standing up, and looking ahead for about two seconds. Now quickly turn your head backwards, and without turning it forward whatsoever, try taking ten steps forward.

In most likelihood you were obstructed by something in your path that you weren’t able to see to go around because you weren’t looking forward, right? Now apply this exercise to your everyday life. Sure we have memories of the past, and sometimes it is hard to move on from the good times we had, but remember that looking backwards all the time while trying to move forward will only stop you from maneuvering the challenges in your life correctly.

It’s so easy to get caught up in what you did wrong, regretting things that you’ve done, decisions you’ve made but the past is the past and you’ve got to learn to forgive yourself, let things go, and move on. But when you do look back, do so only to see how far you’ve come to recognize the gains that you’ve made in only six short months, or one short year. Tell yourself, over and over again, “Good job.” Pat yourself on the back. Because you deserve to feel accomplished, proud and confident and no one can do a better job at doing that, than you.
Remember that your struggles are why you are capable of succeeding. Your so called mistakes or failures have prepared you to exceed other people’s expectations. The problems you’ve faced in your life have molded you into the person that you are today you’re stronger, more resilient, complicated and capable. There is a reason for why you’ve experienced the things you’ve experienced and your future self will thank you for remembering your purpose. You were born different, and shaped specifically for your own path. Don’t ever apologize for who you are, and don’t ever let anyone make you think you have to do so.

Don’t Waste Time On People Who Don’t Deserve It


Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don’t even deserve to be an issue in your life.
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Life seems to be much too short to be stressed over people who don’t even deserve to be an afterthought in your mind. Many times we find ourselves being guilty of something that we more often than not realize is belittling to our own lives and progress made. Life isn’t something that we should knowingly allow ourselves to waste time in, because we are never guaranteed any more time to spend in this tough world.

Instead of dedicating your thoughts and energy to someone who doesn’t matter, focus on keeping people around you who do matter! Or in other words, keeping people around you who won’t be a problem in your life, but instead people who help you to create solutions for the problems you face.

Life is more than what we as a majority or society if you will, tend to think it is, and life is also much shorter than most men predict. Give your time to becoming the best person you may become, so that in turn, you may help others to become the best they may become.

There Is Something Good In Every Day


Every day may not be good… but there is something good in every day.
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Though it is human nature to worry and to look for threats of danger in our lives, we must come to know that if we live a life full of worry, our whole life can be slowed from us being drug down in spirit, in our words, and even ultimately in our physical being.

Instead of dedicating a life to worry, and avoiding many opportunities in life because we are too scared that we will be hurt, we must make a solid effort each day to make each day more positive than the day before.

Every time you notice yourself thinking in a negative manner, take a breath, and focus on thinking about how your thought may be turned into a positive thought.

Every time that we notice that we spew negative words, we should take a second, think of a way to reword what we have said or need to say in a positive manner, and then say it aloud.

Life is what you make it, and if you choose to think and speak positively, positive things are sure to happen.

Change Your Thoughts Patterns For A Healthier You Tomorrow


When we have negative thoughts, we produce toxic responses in our body that make us sick. Make a conscious effort to change your thought patterns today for a healthier you tomorrow.
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Seeing past the negative in life is absolutely dire if you are to see everything in life that you need to see. If you choose to focus on the adversity that you are about to face, if you choose to focus on the negative things that people have to say, and the lack of resources you may have to get to where you want to be in life, then you will never have enough focus to get to your dreams.

When negative circumstances come your way, make the right choice, and choose to pay no attention to anything but the prize. Seeing the positive in every situation is very helpful in steering one’s mind away from the negative circumstances that are sure to alive when one is making great attempts at making his or her life better. Turn a blind eye to the negative influences life will tempt you to dwell on, see past the negative, and give your attention to the dreams you have set for yourself.

It’s Not The Goodbye That Hurts, But The Flashbacks That Follow


Sometimes even though you’re having a good time, you can’t help but to stop and think about how much you miss the old times. 
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It truly is hard to say goodbye to yesterday sometimes. Sometimes it seems as though all that we are able to remember are the good times that we may have shared with someone. When you are apart from someone you love, the memories that you shared that make you miss that person are usually the good memories you share. 

It is hard to move forward in your life staring through your rearview mirror, so try to remember that your past is in your past for a reason. If you truly can’t resist attempting another go at a relationship that you had in the past, by all means go for it. But before doing so promise yourself that you will never make the same mistakes as before twice, and if you know you will don’t go back. It is just a natural human function for us to remember the good times we have shared with someone, but don’t let your memories hold you back from walking forward to your future.