Christmas is my favorite time of the year! There are different ways to practice kindness this season. One way to be kind is to open your eyes and be active when you see people in need. Do you notice when people around us needs a helping hand? A sense of community is created when people are kind to those who need help. Sometimes people just need to hear some encouraging and kind words in order to bring a smile to their face, so why not just do it already? Being kind to someone could change their entire day if you let it. Try and put this to the test by complimenting someone today, or maybe even reach out to one of your friends and let them know that you are proud of them. The little things mean the most to people and go a long way, so be kind to others and get some good karma on your side.
People may not remember what you said, or what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Why not leave them with something positive this season. The holidays arrive each year with an abundance of expectations. We’re expected to be having fun and feeling joy, to be surrounded by loved ones and a warm, connected family to which we effortlessly belong. We’re expected to be busy and enjoying all sorts of exciting and festive activities, doing special holiday things. In short, we’re expected to be happy…well, actually, not just happy, happier than we are at any other time of the year. There are people out there who struggle every single day to get out of bed and do normal life things, so if they hear something negative, it could set them over the edge. That is why I think it is crucial for people to be kind to others and just learn to stop being so mean and hateful. The truth is, many people do not have warm and loving families to go home to, relatives with whom they feel they genuinely belong. Many are not busy with exciting and interesting things to do throughout the season. And the fact that they aren’t having the holiday season they’re expected to have makes them feel even worse about themselves — less joyful and less happy. It can be as simple as a smiling at someone, giving up your old wears to someone who cannot afford it, or buying food for the hungry, homeless man. It’s a way of connecting, if only for a short moment, with those people we pass in our daily lives. Everyone is affected by an act of kindness. Kindness is contagious and you never know just how big of an impact a small gesture of kindness can have.
There are many ways to be kind and many opportunities to practice. Perhaps kindness is a value that could add more satisfaction to and strengthen your relationships. It doesn’t have to cost anything, either; what’s important is that it’s an act of expressing genuine care for another person. In fact, there’s no limit to the ways in which we can be kind to others – all we need to do is pay attention to those around us and start seeing opportunities to help! Whatever it might be for you, give yourself the space to honor the transition that this season brings and to welcome its gifts with open arms. We must reorient ourselves towards kindness, compassion, service, love, and simplicity — the qualities that this season’s teachings are all about.
Life’s not about people who act true to your face. It’s about people who remain true behind your back and real friends are always going to be there by your side, even at times when you tell them to leave because friendship is always a sweet responsibility never an opportunity.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. If you already have a real friend in your life, then you know that through thick, and through thin, they will always be there for you. Not to judge you, or to tell you that they tried to warn you before, not to bring you down, or kick you while your down, but instead to help pick you up when you fall, or to sit with you and help talk you into getting back up. Not all of us have had friends like these and if we want one all we must do is be a friend like this to someone who needs it. If you plant seeds of love, in good faith, and in good hopes, it will be returned into your own life abundantly. Be that friend for someone who needs someone by their side. Be that friend for that person going through a bad break up, family problems, or other forms of instability in their own lives, and you will surely find the same in your own life. The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them. Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything because a good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world. Our true friends are those who are with us when the good things happen. They cheer us on and are pleased by our triumphs. False friends only appear at difficult times, with their sad, supportive faces, when, in fact, our suffering is serving to console them for their miserable lives. There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship just because your wealth is where your friends are. Always remember that it’s not where you are in life, it’s who you have by your side that matters. God bless you.
Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Do not chase people. Be you, do your own thing and work hard. The right people who belong in your life will come to you, and stay.
In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Chasing people around in life will be of no benefit to you in the long run. This is mostly because you can’t make people be who you want them to be, people will always do what they truly want to do, deep down inside. What you can do is make extraordinary effort each day to be you, and to do what is in your heart, and work hard at it. The people who deserve to be in your life will come in your life, and not only will they just be a part of your life like the people of your past, but they will stay in your life as well. Cut the slack out of your life, and let go of the people that are only bringing you down. There is no reason to be burdened continually by people who don’t believe in you, when there are people out there that will. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life. Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like because to improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.
It’s often said that change is the only constant in life. Yet humans are evolutionarily predisposed to resist change because of the risk associated with it. Despite this resistance to change, it is more important than ever. Most people are not happy with their life. Yet they continually venture down the same road of unhappiness. Never willing to change. As you take a birds eye view of your current lifestyle, do you like what you see? Are your relationships, career choices, financial situation and other aspects of your life truly satisfying? Or do you feel there should be more? If you don’t like change, you will like irrelevance even less because change means that what was before wasn’t perfect. People want things to be better. Sometimes it is necessary to sort through the main issues in our lives and work out what is really bothering us. Chances are, it’s not the events themselves but the thoughts and feelings behind them that are causing the emotional disturbance.
Change doesn’t necessarily come about as a result of what we think will precipitate it and when it doesn’t, it’s easy to conclude that it can’t happen. There’s something attractive, even compelling about believing that making substantive changes in our lives is unrealistic or even impossible but we need to understand that every journey in our life started with a single step forward, as long as you keep moving, you will eventually begin to change your life. When deciding you want change in your life, you must truly get upset with your current situation. Your emotions are very powerful. And you’ll find that by using this energy as a catalyst for change, your desired life will be within your grasp. We need to remind ourselves always that no matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself. Whatever your scenario may be, you must make a drastic shift in your mentality. Keep in mind, the more significant your desired life outcome, the stronger your convictions for change must be. Learning to love and enjoy YOU is the most important tool in changing your life too because at the end of the day, all you have is you, so learning how to love yourself, support yourself and be your best friend is paramount.
How can we forgive others, if we can’t even forgive ourselves? None of us are perfect and we all have flaws.
It’s not about forgiving another. Forgiveness is not about forgiving your parents, friends, loved ones. Forgiveness exists when you love yourself so much you realize all the choices you’ve made were the best choices you could make at that point in time. Nothing in life blocks the feelings of gratitude more than anger and resentment. This is why I say that the practice of gratitude requires the work of forgiveness. One can never feel grateful to your loved one who has done you wrong or abused you while you are still angry about their wrong doings, abuse or insensitivity, nor can one ever receive the gifts of a relationship that has ended. If you can forgive your friend, or even a stranger, why can’t you forgive yourself? we have to learn how to forgive ourselves. While the careless among us waste little time or conscience berating themselves for the mistakes that they have made, the overly self-conscious can’t seem to stop beating themselves over the head.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future and only you can come to the place where you want to forgive. What helps the forgiveness process is to actually understand that resentment is a second-hand attitude or emotion, plus also a cover for underlying feelings that you have never expressed. Learn from the hurt and pain that people have caused you. If you really took the time to express fully what your hurt and pain is and state your new boundary, you’ll begin to be grateful for the lessons the wound has taught you. You will be able to stand up for yourself, be kinder towards others, stop hurting other people’s feelings, betraying them or whatever the case may be. True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment. It’s fine to have high expectations for one’s self, but not if it means destroying your own self-esteem. What loving yourself does mean, is that you learn to have self-respect and you take care of your body, mind and spirit — it means having a sense of purpose in life, striving to improve ourselves and working to help others. For me, it really means “I love me and thus, I love you” — and if everyone centers their life around love and compassion, the world becomes a much, much better place.
If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love. Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning ‘Good morning’ at total strangers. Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor.Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
We can bring positive energy into our daily lives by smiling more, talking to strangers in line, replacing handshakes with hugs, and calling our friends just to tell them we love them. When you truly find love, you find yourself because love is the most powerful healing energy. Everything you do with love spreads healing. So feel it,be it, and spread it because the best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer someone else up. Smile is always a smart thing to do, don’t you think? And the reason why this is true is not at all related to the fact that faking a smile is better than standing there with a sad face, like many people seem to think nowadays. On the contrary, a genuine smile can have many shapes and meanings, it can communicate different things, it can be a sign a complicity or simply the expression of pure empathy. You don’t even need to think about it too much: just smile.
Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life. Be kind and merciful. Let no one ever come to you without coming away better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting. In the slums we are the light of God’s kindness to the poor. To children, to the poor, to all who suffer and are lonely, give always a happy smile – Give them not only your care, but also your heart. To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don’t want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt. Never forget that the most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. Give a stranger one of your smiles today. It might be the only sunshine he/she sees all day.
How much of your life is spent trying to please others? How often do you sacrifice who you truly are to maintain a certain image or to fulfill an expectation others have of you? When was the last time you felt fully alive in your own skin? Or totally in alignment with your values and what really matters to you?
We are all created for a purpose, and the only way to even begin our journey of fulfilling that purpose is to first give ourselves the permission to be happy. When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone. While being you and truly sharing what you do will bring happiness to others, you won’t find contentment merely trying to keep others happy by taking responsibility for our lives we not only gain control of what happens. It also becomes natural to feel like you deserve more in life as your self-esteem builds and as you do the right thing more consistently. You feel better about yourself and this is critically important because it’s most often you that are standing in your own way and in the way of your success. It’s you that start to self-sabotage or hold yourself back in subtle or not so subtle ways once you are on your way to the success you dream of. To remove that inner resistance you must feel and think that you actually deserve what you want. You may be able to do a little about that by affirmations and other positive techniques. But the biggest impact by far comes from taking responsibility for yourself and your life. By doing the right thing.
Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. It is often said that your thoughts become your actions. But without taking responsibility for your life those thoughts often just stay on that mental stage and aren’t translated into action. Taking responsibility for your life is that extra ingredient that makes taking action more of a natural thing. You don’t get stuck in just thinking, thinking and wishing so much. You become proactive instead of passive.Taking responsibility for your life is great. But that is also all that you have control over. You can’t control the results of your actions. You can’t control how someone reacts to what you say or what you do and it’s important to know where your limits are. Otherwise you’ll create a lot unnecessary suffering for yourself and waste energy and focus by taking responsibility for what you can’t and never really could control and hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Don’t go into the business of pleasing people. You can’t please everybody. Simply do your best at what you do.
What makes you different is what makes you stronger. You are a masterpiece uniquely designed by God. You can have tremendous victories, love, and abundance.
I find it incredibly amazing how at every sunset, the sky is a different shade. No cloud is ever in the same place. Each day is a new masterpiece. A new wonder. A new memory. Your thought should be creative and not destructive; it should be full of hope and faith for a more excellent future because you are God’s masterpiece. You are His finest, most beautiful work of art. He created you in His image. He created you perfect so stop treating yourself like a shattered piece. Sometimes, we take His perfection and make a big mess out of ourselves and our lives. We humans in our fallen state are messy. We are imperfect. Therefore, we desperately need the Ultimate Artist to take the scraps, the ephemera, the torn pieces of our hearts and lives, and make them into a beautiful work of art. How far you go in life and in your career is dependent on how far you can think good thoughts because your future is dependent on your thought today, therefore think good and lovely thoughts now.
Always set your mind to think thoughts of victory even before the battle begins, this way you will experience limitless possibilities. Your life today and tomorrow is patterned alongside your thoughts. You are therefore advised to create good and wonderful thoughts today so they will deliver a beautiful tomorrow for you. Our thoughts create our lifestyle, if you live healthy, it means you think healthy thoughts and if you think unhealthy thoughts, it will reflect in your health and lifestyle too. When your thought is right, your imaginations will be colourful; you will then dream and not have nightmares. Don’t give up on your greatest masterpiece — You. Think on blessings and not curses, beauty not ugliness, health not sickness. Meditate on wealth not poverty, success not failure, grace not disgrace and use the powerful tool of thought and develop your mindset to believing and knowing you can change anything to your favour; yes, you have God`s Word so fashion your thought according to God`s Word.
This Christmas, I encourage you to give back and put a smile on someone’s face if you are able to. Every day when we pray, we ask for something good to happen to our lives. We seek refuge and hope that someone will come to help lighten our burdens each day. Sometimes too we look around and see people suffering around us. We hope that someone who can help them would do something and make them less miserable. The truth is, the world can be a better place if everyone spoke less about how much the world needs to change for the better but instead did something about it.
Most days, it’s easy to stay focused on our own lives. Our work, our problems, what we have to accomplish and what is stressing us out. But it’s easy to forget that everyone else in the world has just as much on their plate as we do – sometimes even more. During this season especially, it’s important to remember that every person you come in contact with has their own story and their own reasons for celebrating the season. So before you let the holiday madness stress you out and get the best of you, remember that everyone is fighting their own cold, snowy battle. You can be a blessing to others by speaking kind words, volunteering in your community, giving to charity, sharing things, giving food, sharing your testimony, praying for someone in need, listening to someone, etc.
There is always an opportunity to bless someone. The more we seek to bless others, God will provide for us and open more doors to accomplish His will. Money isn’t the only way to make a difference. Unfortunately, this idea is often what keeps many people from getting involved. They think that, because they don’t have tons of extra money to donate or invest, they have no way to help. But I saw the opposite of this more than ever this holiday season. There is always an opportunity to help others if you just lift your hands and reach out to do so. A blessing is not just money or any material thing that people wish for. The best blessing is you sharing yourself with the world. Remember never to pass up a chance to help someone in need. No matter how simple the task is, every little act of kindness counts. And when other people see how doing good works for you, they will do the same.
Some pursue happiness; others create it because the pursuit of happiness is simply one’s God given right to commit actions that allow a person to pursue happiness, so long as that pursuit does not deliberately involve interfering directly or indirectly with the happiness of others.
Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is because your happiness is your responsibility. That may sound a little like tough love, but it’s actually just a reminder to you that your happiness is within your control. We must make a blueprint or goal for ourselves, get it approved by the man upstairs, then go about trying to reach this goal without letting any challenge or circumstance get in our way. It is easy to overlook our critical role of expressing emotion in creating our happiness. We are inclined to think of our emotions as a response to people and material things. One simple way this happens is that we hypnotize ourselves with words such as “He/She makes me happy.” Even the phrase, “I’m so happy you came to visit me.” can have an implied mental assumption that our emotions are because of them.
Happiness is not a mystery to solve or secret to be revealed in order to be experienced. It is so simple that just about any child can model it even if they can’t explain it. Happiness is a feeling created by the expression of your love coming out of you. When your love is coming out of you, you are happy. If you express emotions of fear and anger, you will experience fear and anger. How you feel is determined by the emotions you create. The reasons you create different emotions at different times is because of beliefs in the mind that respond to different triggers. Those beliefs are the artificial criteria telling us not to love, or that it is not safe to love. If we limit the expression of love by the criteria in the mind, we limit the happiness and joy in our life. Being aware that we create our emotions and that we can change the criteria in our mind is a big shift in responsibility and power over our happiness. Meaning that we shouldn’t just be content with the happiness we have created in the past, to maintain our happiness we must keep looking forward to creating it and we need to always remember that Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.