Not Everyone You Lose Is A Loss

Not everyone you lose is a loss.
Learning to love makes us deal with loss in a very upfront way. Many times we try to hold on to love when doing so only digs the hole of despair deeper for our own lives.

Moving on from a person whom you really love can be painful. Things get tough when you realize that the person you wish to spend a lifetime with isn’t a person that you can ever grow with.

Devoting your time and energy towards a person or situation that you will never be able to change alone, is a maddening process. This insane method of trying to manipulate a situation into what you want it to be often never works because it is almost impossible to change a person who doesn’t desire to do so.

Let the pain and weight of the loved one who refuses to change leave your life, or you will never find true peace or happiness.

Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Giving Up

I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.


It happens as we get older and grow up and change. Friendships that we thought would be in our lives forever turn out to have an expiration date. Your lives are on two separate tracks and it seems that there’s no going back. And as much as you love her and cherish the memories you’ve shared together, you know in your heart that the friendship has run its course.

Maybe it’s that your friend is overwhelmingly emotionally needy and draining you of your time and energy. Or maybe she lied to you, betrayed you, or inflicted some other pain upon you. Or maybe your friend is incredibly negative, cynical, and pessimistic and works overtime to rain on your parade because she’s jealous of your sun and tired of her shade. Or maybe she doesn’t make the effort and you are tired of being the one to always reach out. Whatever the case may be – if a friendship brings out the WORST in you rather than the BEST in you, it’s not a friendship that belongs in your life.

You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them…but still move on without them. The friendship had significance, and meaning, and importance…for a season. And that season has passed. Just like you wouldn’t wear a bikini in the winter or snow boots in the summer…it makes no sense to try to extend a friendship that was only meant to be a season into a lifetime…

Never Play Games With Someone’s Heart

If you’re giving your all to someone and it’s not enough you’re probably giving it to the wrong person.
Sometimes we give our all to someone and we end up being hurt by this same person. When we experience a pain like this, it cuts very deep, and we start to question ourselves and whether we gave a good enough effort, and if we did everything right that we may have possibly been able to.

Heartbreak is a very difficult thing to deal with, and sometimes in life we deal with it in the wrong ways. Don’t blame yourself, when someone else chooses not to be with you. Everyone has choices to make in life, and you can’t force someone to be with you.

More importantly, you shouldn’t have to want to force someone to be with you! If someone doesn’t recognize you for the greatness inside of you, and if they can’t see how much of an addition that you are to their lives, then they most certainly don’t deserve to be a part of your life! Let them go, you deserve someone who will treat you as the special being you truly are!

Confront The Dark Parts Of Yourself

Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength. -August Wilson
Every single person has things that they are committed to doing that they know aren’t good for them, and maybe are even harmful to others. Your demons are toxic and cancerous to your overall being, because they may not seem to be harming you much when you allow them in your life. Eventually we must all come to a point in time that we stand up for ourselves, for our health, and for our dreams. If we ever want to reach and sustain success and happiness we must be able to live a life of balance, a life full of dedication and full of spirit.

No one is perfect, and no one will ever be perfect, but the first step to getting past your problems is admitting that you have them. Don’t defend your bad habits if you intend to let them go. Fight, and fight hard so that one day you will be as free as you truly should be.

It’s Not The Goodbye That Hurts, But The Flashbacks That Follow

Sometimes even though you’re having a good time, you can’t help but to stop and think about how much you miss the old times. 
It truly is hard to say goodbye to yesterday sometimes. Sometimes it seems as though all that we are able to remember are the good times that we may have shared with someone. When you are apart from someone you love, the memories that you shared that make you miss that person are usually the good memories you share. 

It is hard to move forward in your life staring through your rearview mirror, so try to remember that your past is in your past for a reason. If you truly can’t resist attempting another go at a relationship that you had in the past, by all means go for it. But before doing so promise yourself that you will never make the same mistakes as before twice, and if you know you will don’t go back. It is just a natural human function for us to remember the good times we have shared with someone, but don’t let your memories hold you back from walking forward to your future.