MAKING REAL CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE


Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like because to improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.

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It’s often said that change is the only constant in life. Yet humans are evolutionarily predisposed to resist change because of the risk associated with it. Despite this resistance to change, it is more important than ever. Most people are not happy with their life. Yet they continually venture down the same road of unhappiness. Never willing to change. As you take a birds eye view of your current lifestyle, do you like what you see? Are your relationships, career choices, financial situation and other aspects of your life truly satisfying? Or do you feel there should be more? If you don’t like change, you will like irrelevance even less because change means that what was before wasn’t perfect. People want things to be better. Sometimes it is necessary to sort through the main issues in our lives and work out what is really bothering us. Chances are, it’s not the events themselves but the thoughts and feelings behind them that are causing the emotional disturbance.

Change doesn’t necessarily come about as a result of what we think will precipitate it and when it doesn’t, it’s easy to conclude that it can’t happen. There’s something attractive, even compelling about believing that making substantive changes in our lives is unrealistic or even impossible but we need to understand that every journey in our life started with a single step forward, as long as you keep moving, you will eventually begin to change your life. When deciding you want change in your life, you must truly get upset with your current situation. Your emotions are very powerful. And you’ll find that by using this energy as a catalyst for change, your desired life will be within your grasp. We need to remind ourselves always that no matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself. Whatever your scenario may be, you must make a drastic shift in your mentality. Keep in mind, the more significant your desired life outcome, the stronger your convictions for change must be. Learning to love and enjoy YOU is the most important tool in changing your life too because at the end of the day, all you have is you, so learning how to love yourself, support yourself and be your best friend is paramount.

 

Friends Are The Family You Choose


What makes friendship so priceless?  It’s been said that the best things in life are free, and true friends are some of the best things in life that money can’t buy.

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The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship and there comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will. When times get hard and the going seems to get tougher to the point to where you want to give up, do the people around you influence you to give up, or do they influence you to keep going. This also should make us examine how good of a friend we are to those around us. Friends come in all shapes and sizes.  A true friend really gets you.  They like your flaws and all.  They know what to say, and more importantly, when to say nothing at all.  When you flip through the collage of people in your life, you may have some people in your corner that you can count on.

Do we encourage, do we persevere with our loved ones, do we believe in our loved ones and give them hope when they are greatly discouraged. If you can answer yes with confidence to all of those questions you are truly a great friend, and if you couldn’t it doesn’t make you any less of a friend, but it should make you realize certain things you may need to start doing to be more than just a good friend, but instead, a great friend. Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.Choose your friends wisely, and that’s one of the best ways to level up in life.  The opposite is also true because friends are the family you choose.

One Must Be Poor To Know The Luxury Of Giving


We are all created equal with special gifts and if we reach out to each other in sharing these gifts, we all become richer because the smallest good deed is worth a thousand grand intentions and it takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.

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Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give. Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery. A kindly act once in a while isn’t enough. You have to act the Good Samaritan every day, if need be. It may mean the loss of many nights’ sleep, great interference with your pleasures, interruptions to your business. Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family. This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving because there is no delight in owning anything unshared. It is pride when we feel that we are unusually well equipped to help the new man, forgetting our own early days, and overlooking the possibility that we may need help tomorrow. It is pride when we regard help to another as our good deed of the month and not as medicine for our own ailment which is only arrested and not cured.

Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help. Giving with glad and generous hearts has a way of routing out the tough old miser within us. Even the poor need to know that they can give. Just the very act of letting go of money, or some other treasure, does something within us. It destroys the demon greed. It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself and we need to know that if you are not generous with a meager income, you will never be generous with abundance. Love only grows by sharing and you can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others. Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness to others; so never hesitate to go anywhere if you can be helpful because your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world. Always remember that your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts. One must be poor to know the luxury of giving.

Everyday Gives Us A New Way To Approach Life.


Do you feel like you’re “sleep-walking” through life? Do you wish you had more freedom? Do you wish you had more adventure? Do you wish you had more time? Do you wish you had more love? Making things positive doesn’t mean a sunny outlook; it means making the choice to see problems as opportunities. Every problem and difficult situation is embedded with a solution – the adventure lies in finding the solution because today is the first day of the rest of your life.

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Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can and a strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug. I think anything is possible if you have the mindset and the will and desire to do it and put the time in. A positive attitude helps you in every walk of life. This can help you overcome life’s many obstacles with ease. A positive attitude can certainly take you places. Being optimistic about your approach can turn many situations in your favour. Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny. Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life. Don’t choose your path in life based on the expectations set on you by others, whether its your parents, friends, or society in general.

Today is a new day. It’s a day you have never seen before and will never see again. Stop telling yourself the ‘same crap, different day’ lie. How many days has that lie stolen from you? Seize the wonder and uniqueness of today. Recognize that throughout this beautiful day, you have an incredible amount of opportunities to move your life into the direction you want it to go. Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.It does not matter how long you are spending on the earth, how much money you have gathered or how much attention you have received. It is the amount of positive vibration you have radiated in life that matters, because you are the sum total of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot – it’s all there. When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you. Life is like a game of chess.To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are acculated along the way because we become each and every piece within the game called life!

Embrace Your Uniqueness And Make An Impact In Life


Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

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There are too many things in this world do not have a perfect or a definite answer. Some answer will unfold naturally as you proceed in life, while some answer will never reveal by itself unless you seek it attentively. We need to always remember that life is like a road trip without a map; as you travel along the highway of life, you stop at different places, veer off down unknown roads, change direction every now and again and sometimes, although you hate to admit it, you get lost. Sadly, there are some of who insist on taking the map with them, making sure that nothing is uncertain, that all roads are clearly mapped out and getting lost is never a possibility. In life, whenever you feel confused, frustrated, lost or do not know what you really want, you can always seek guidance from your heart. The best way to get over your fear is to do what you’re most afraid of. You’ll feel more accomplished, fulfilled, happy, peaceful, and ultimately, more alive. Let your fears fuel your passion instead of allowing them to stunt your progress. If more people allowed their hearts rather than minds to serve as their compass, this whole world would explode with passion and people following their dreams. Leave fear behind and embrace the courage within you! All of us have it, and you are no different. You are capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to, if you just believe in the power within.

The idea of making an impact in life is nothing new. Doing things that have a profound positive effect on those around us means that we both stand out in people’s minds, and also leave a lasting impression of what is possible with the right actions and decisions. Life is a courageous journey or nothing at all.  We cannot become who we want to be by continuing to do exactly what we’ve been doing.  Choose to listen to your inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else.  Do what you know in your heart is right for YOU.  It’s your road, and yours alone.  Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.  And be sure to appreciate every day of your life.  Good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience, and the worst days give you the best lessons. Sometimes we don’t notice the things others do for us until they stop doing them.  Don’t be like that.  Be grateful for what you have, who loves you, and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they’re no longer beside you.  Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you.  Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can’t do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it to live. Instead of just going along in your usual way take a day off from that. And smile towards everyone you meet because if you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t change.  Uniqueness is priceless.

Creating Balance in Your Life


The consistency in your person from home to work is vitally important so that you are in total balance at all times. Being out of balance means that your true self will start to be confused with what you pretend to be. A well-balanced person has a far greater ability to focus their attention and energy on attaining their goals, taking productive actions and moving forward in a meaningful way.

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In each of us lie good and bad, light and dark, art and pain, choice and regret, cruelty and sacrifice. We’re each of us our own chiaroscuro, our own bit of illusion fighting to emerge into something solid, something real. We’ve got to forgive ourselves that. I must remember to forgive myself. Because there is a lot of grey to work with. No one can live in the light all the time. Many people think that having a balanced life means spending the same number of hours on work as you do on personal activities. This is a big mistake, because most of the time it’s not realistic. Being so deeply engaged with your job that you can’t stop doing it infers you are living your purpose. A great thing! The problem arises when you start to neglect other important areas of your life. Areas which, if not balanced, will negatively influence your ability to be successful and happy. In our lives, we have all kinds of priorities, obligations, relationships, interests, and activities that compete for our time. We have the things that we really must do, like going to school, going to work, caring for others, and paying bills. We also have things that we enjoy and make us happy, like spending time with family and friends, working on a hobby, or playing on a team. Balance is how we do the things we have to do and the things we want to do…without changing the number of hours in the day. The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man.

To truly achieve success, you must live your life in balance. Change your perspective by thinking first about the life you want to live and then about the job and career which fits into that life and can support it financially. And it means really understanding our own boundaries and needs so that we have the freedom to pursue all the various roles and identities we have or want to have in life. Finding balance leads to greater life satisfaction and well-being—which improves your ability to find balance in the future. To define what will work for you, you need to take into consideration that life is constantly changing. The right balance for you today, may not be the right balance for you tomorrow or next week or next month, because over time your priorities change. The one constant in knowing you have a balanced life is the feeling of accomplishment and happiness you enjoy every day. We all have the same twenty-four hours in a day. And we cannot possibly do everything that we want to do and everything that everyone else wants us to do. So a big part of leading a more balanced life is to cut down on unnecessary tasks and protect your priorities. When requests or conflicts are set before you, ask yourself: “Is this going to give me a feeling of accomplishment and a feeling of happiness?” Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. If you’re interested in ‘balancing’ work and pleasure, stop trying to balance them. Instead make your work more pleasurable. In all aspects of our lives balance is key. Doing one thing too much can cause upset, like the old saying goes, everything in moderation is the secret!

Love & Accept Yourself First, The World Will Follow


Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters. If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy. For many people self-acceptance is hard to come by on a good day, please accept yourself more, love yourself, make the right choices, know what is good for you, and  know that you are not alone.
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Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. We have to accept ourselves for who we are at heart, if we don’t we will never truly be happy when we achieve what can be seen as success. The relationship we have with our body is constantly fluctuating between love, rejection and acceptance. Every morning when we look in the mirror, we see something different. When I talk about loving ourselves, I mean having a deep appreciation for who we are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves, our little peculiarities, the embarrassments, the things we may not do so well, and all the wonderful qualities, too. We have to love ourselves, if we don’t have any love for ourselves trying to give love to somebody else is impossible.

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection, we must make the right choices, too many times we are tempted to do things that we know deep down are the wrong things to choose to do. We have to accept the whole package with love. Unconditionally. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.

When you love yourself you endeavor to take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. You take care to look and feel your best by nurturing your body, mind and spirit. We know what is good for us, and our basic instincts tell us when something is wrong when we may not necessarily know that something is outwardly wrong. We must know that we are not alone, despite who may be around for us physically, emotionally, or spiritually during trying times, it may seem as though no one is around, but if you put your hands together, bow your head, and start talking, God will hear and answer your prayer!

If you are not willing to love yourself today, then you are not going to love yourself tomorrow, because whatever excuse you have today, you’ll still have tomorrow. Maybe you’ll have the same excuse 20 years from now, and even leave this lifetime holding on to the same excuse. Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself , no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are completely; the good, the bad and make changes as YOU see fit, not because you think someone else wants you to be different. Always remember that it ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.

Being Happy Depends On Your Choice


We all want to be happy. But for many of us, happiness is an elusive, fleeting state that we can capture only for a brief moment, before it floats away like dust in the wind. Being happy depends on your choice. Your circumstances may affect it but still the choice is yours if you let other things affect your happiness.

timemoneyHappiness. It is not measurable, profitable, nor tradable. Yet, above all else in the world, it is what people seek. They want to have happiness, and want to know they have a lot of it. But happiness, like air or water, is a hard thing to grasp in one’s hand. It is intangible. So how does one know if they have it? Is it just a feeling? And if someone does not feel happy, how can they go about achieving that feeling? Yes, Happiness is a choice, we have got the choice on how we want to live our life. There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.

All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within. It doesn’t really matter the circumstances in our life, we have still got the choice to live an unhappy life, at the mercy of our emotions, events etc., which could be quite miserable sometimes, or we can choose to live a happy life, be a happy person, whatever the circumstances are, the choice is ours. Happiness is not measured by material wealth. A new car or television, a new house does not equate to joyful feelings. They are status symbols, surely, and ones that make others assume a person is happy, but they do not guarantee a happy life. The clichéd phrase, “money can’t buy happiness,” is heard often… because it is true. People who have wealth can be unhappy, just as the poor can be living on cloud nine. Possessions can be gained and lost, and with that comes fear. And fear rarely leads to happiness.

Happiness lies in living a plain life within one’s own means. If you follow the dictum ‘cut you coat according to your cloth’ and live within your own means, you will not need to trouble your head to get a loan of money or to pay back loan. Besides, you will not be a parasite or a dependant on others and your free mind will bring you immense happiness. Happiness lies not only in the life of plain living but also in the life of high thinking. So, a saying goes on ‘plain living and high thinking’. If you live a life of high thinking the trifling worldly troubles will not disturb your mind. The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy. Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response. Be happy. It’s one way of being wise because happiness may come and go like the seasons but in the end, every moment that you have that is filled with happiness will be well worth the sad or unnerving ones that you have had to endure.

A Whole Day To Celebrate Me


God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well. The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.

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Today is my birthday; a new day has come and it’s better for me than it will be for some people. To those who are suffering, know I wish you peace, and may the light of morning bring needed release from dawn until evening; I pray you will find a never ending path of sweet memories in mind. This may be my hour and my time to shine yet, on this my birthday, knows your heart is mine.

I welcome each challenge this year offers me through hardship I’ve traveled and lived; I’ve conquered in stride with the grace of God evermore at my side. Each day of my life forms good fortune, anew. A handwritten chapter of dreams I pursue. I look not in sorrow, but with happy tears. Today is my birthday and this is my prayer, I wish mounds of love to my friends and fan everywhere; for you have stood by me, through thick and through thin and I know you would do the same, yet again. I wish you blue skies filled with sunshine galore and pray that warm tidings are near to your door. I may now be older, but I feel so blessed to have you, my friends and fans, for indeed, you’re the best.

I’m so very blessed not just on my birthday for all the friends and family God has sent my way. Although this day in the natural was my birth and I celebrate everyday for God showing me my purpose and worth and as I count my blessings I thank God for all of you, for love is the greatest gift we can all share too! Thank-you each and everyone for being a part of my life, I love you all dearly and for your love, calls, cards and wishes ongoing. Thank you and May God bless you each and everyone!

 

Keep Smiling And One Day Life Will Get Tired Of Upsetting You


No matter who tries to teach you lessons about life, you won’t understand it until you have to go through it on your own.
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Look at the sky: that is for you. Look at each person’s face as you pass on the street: those faces are for you. And the street itself, and the ground under the street, and the ball of fire underneath the ground: all these things are for you. There are as much for you as they are for other people. Remember this when you wake up in the morning and think you have nothing.
Sometimes it is easy to feel as though we are somewhere where we aren’t wanted or aren’t loved. Experiencing new situations like our first day alone in a new high school, college campus, or job, can be overwhelming and also very intimidating because of the lack of friends we have, and also because of the lack of knowledge of the environment in which we are making our way into.
When we experience situations such as these try to remember everyone that you see around you had to of been new to the environment at some point, and that they are no better than you because they are human just as you are. Remember that you are a special person and it is a pleasure for someone to be able to know you. Also try to remember that no one belongs where you are more than you do, so take this moment and own it!