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If You Are Busy Pleasing Everyone, You Are Not Being True To Yourself


How much of your life is spent trying to please others? How often do you sacrifice who you truly are to maintain a certain image or to fulfill an expectation others have of you? When was the last time you felt fully alive in your own skin? Or totally in alignment with your values and what really matters to you?

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We are all created for a purpose, and the only way to even begin our journey of fulfilling that purpose is to first give ourselves the permission to be happy. When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone. While being you and truly sharing what you do will bring happiness to others, you won’t find contentment merely trying to keep others happy by taking responsibility for our lives we not only gain control of what happens. It also becomes natural to feel like you deserve more in life as your self-esteem builds and as you do the right thing more consistently. You feel better about yourself and this is critically important because it’s most often you that are standing in your own way and in the way of your success. It’s you that start to self-sabotage or hold yourself back in subtle or not so subtle ways once you are on your way to the success you dream of. To remove that inner resistance you must feel and think that you actually deserve what you want. You may be able to do a little about that by affirmations and other positive techniques. But the biggest impact by far comes from taking responsibility for yourself and your life. By doing the right thing.

Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens. It is often said that your thoughts become your actions. But without taking responsibility for your life those thoughts often just stay on that mental stage and aren’t translated into action. Taking responsibility for your life is that extra ingredient that makes taking action more of a natural thing. You don’t get stuck in just thinking, thinking and wishing so much. You become proactive instead of passive.Taking responsibility for your life is great. But that is also all that you have control over. You can’t control the results of your actions. You can’t control how someone reacts to what you say or what you do and it’s important to know where your limits are. Otherwise you’ll create a lot unnecessary suffering for yourself and waste energy and focus by taking responsibility for what you can’t and never really could control and hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Don’t go into the business of pleasing people. You can’t please everybody. Simply do your best at what you do.

 

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Life Is Full Of New Beginnings


Do you ever feel like every area of your life is changing so fast and you’re just standing in the middle of it all, confused and directionless? You could consider a new beginning as the start of a new year. A fresh start, a new goal, a year to make your dreams come true. Be determined and persevere.

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I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning. Beginnings could happen more than once or in different ways. You could think you were starting something afresh, when actually what you were doing was carrying on as before. You don’t need endless time and perfect conditions. Do it now. Do it today. Do it for twenty minutes and watch your heart start beating. Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it…it’s just easier if you do.

Don’t worry about being worried. You’re heading out on an adventure and you can always change your mind along the way and try something else. When everything seemingly falls apart, it’s more important than ever to get clear on the direction you want to go in as you move forward. Focus on how you want to feel in every area of life and then start doing activities that create those desired feelings. This is about you. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. Life is full of misery, loneliness, and suffering – and it’s all over much too soon. Every time your heart is broken, a doorway cracks open to a world full of new beginnings, new opportunities. Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. One thing I know for sure is that we learn about ourselves through new experiences. So whatever the ending and new beginning is for you right now, allow yourself to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it. Always remember that each day is a new life. Each moment is really a new life. What we call memories are really present thoughts. What we call anticipations are really present thoughts. No one has ever lived in any moment except the present.

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL.

Have Some Faith In Yourself


Whatever you decide to be in life, whatever goals you decide to pursue, there is one thing that is crucial to do, and that is to love and believe in yourself.
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When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t. People without faith in themselves are like a candle without a flame, though it may have a physical presence, it is not really living up to its full potential because it is not providing any light to the world. Having faith in ones own self is a quality that breeds more qualities. When were able to believe in ourselves they are then able to dream, make plans, set goals for themselves, and be motivated and determined to do these things because of the faith they have in themselves.
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. Those who have faith in themselves also rub off on the people around them, and usually help inspire people who are able to make a real change to the world. We must not be afraid to live as the people who we really are deep down in hearts, for in this world of darkness, every candle that is lit will help provide a great amount of light. You need to have faith in yourself, too. Believe that you can set out to do what you want to accomplish. Believe that you have the skills and abilities to make something great and if you don’t possess those things, believe that you’re capable of developing them so you can get to work. Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful. And don’t forget to thank everyone who supported you, encouraged you, helped you, and loved you. You have the stellar people who cheered for you the whole way even those you never even met face to face!

Be Strong, Believe In Who You Are…


Each person’s success and happiness, both now and in the eternities, depend largely on his or her responses to the difficulties of life. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Be strong, believe in who you are; be strong, believe in what you feel.

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If God sends us on strong paths, we are provided strong shoes. Going through and overcoming adversity is character building, it is one of the aspects of life that shapes us into the human being we are today, and will be in the future. It provides us with experience, the confidence to overcome, opportunities and a kind of coping mechanism to deal with things that don’t go our way, which in life, is inevitable. Adversity comes from different sources. Trials may come as a consequence of a person’s own pride and disobedience. But sometimes we think holding on makes us strong but sometimes it is letting go. To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.

Build upon strengths, and weaknesses will gradually take care of themselves. When some people face adversity, they complain and become bitter. They ask questions like “Why does this have to happen to me? Why do I have to suffer this now? What have I done to deserve this?” But these questions have the power to dominate their thoughts. Such questions can overtake their vision, absorb their energy, and deprive them of the experiences the Lord wants them to receive. Rather than responding in this way, people should consider asking questions such as, “What am I to do? What am I to learn from this experience? What am I to change? Whom am I to help? How can I remember my many blessings in times of trial?”The depth and strength of a human character are defined by its moral reserves. People reveal themselves completely only when they are thrown out of the customary conditions of their life, for only then do they have to fall back on their reserves. We need to remember always that change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.

Time Flies But You’re The Pilot


The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.  Many times we use the phrase time flies when we are remembering the good times or when we are thinking about struggles we’ve overcome.
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The only thing worse than trying and not succeeding…is not trying. The true reality of life is that we are all granted time to do more than just exist, we have the ability to leave a great impression upon the world if we so choose to try. The sad part of this reality is that not everyone is willing to take advantage of the time that they have to spend while they are here.

The next time you start thinking the time is moving way too fast, step back and remember that you are in charge. Take time to do the things you WANT to do. Set goals and work your way to success. Some get lost in self-doubt, while others get lost in cultures or customs that restrict their lives so much that they can never really grasp the sense of urgency we should have towards living life daily.

Time doesn’t really ‘fly’ with wings….but we can use the word as if it does literally fly. And if it really does fly… there’s the possibility of being the pilot. If you’re the pilot then you have control and If you have control then you can use your time wisely. Just because your life isn’t where you want it to be right now doesn’t mean that it never will. You have to be willing to pilot your life into the direction you would like, and stop making excuses. Don’t let bad health, or lack of opportunity stop you from persevering and trotting on through life, push back hard. Fight for your health, fight for more opportunities, fight for whatever it is that burns inside of you. Make life yours!

Learn How To Fight Alone


If you want to be strong learn how to fight alone because the more you love your decisions the less you need others to love them.
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Though we live in a world surrounded with support from many different areas, one thing that we have to learn how to do is fight alone. When we are willing to fight by ourselves for the principles and dreams we believe in, we are ultimately choosing to live a life that we are destined to live. Being confident in your decisions is a key principle to living a free life. The choices you make on a daily basis are what make you who you are. Its cool to think a certain way, and to hope for certain things as well. But, really embodying what is on the inside of you means that you have to be willing to step out on the beliefs and standards that you hold dear.

There are going to be people around you who don’t quite get the choices you make, and who truly never desired to get them. These are the types of people to avoid giving any power in your life over your decisions. Because if it were left to them, you would only ever be what they want you to be.  Just because you may have to fight alone for a period of time doesn’t mean that you will have to do so forever. When we are willing to fight for what we believe in we will inspire other like-minded individuals who believe in the power of living a truthful life with confidence and freedom.

In life there are going to be many tough decisions that we are going to be faced with making, but they ultimately come down to primary things. Those crossroads are accept things as they are and living a normal life, or accepting that it is your destiny to change things for the better to help make your life and the life of others extraordinary. Which will you choose? Sometimes in life you have to be alone to fully understand yourself and where you are going so that in turn you can help inspire others to be their true selves.

Your Setback Is The Platform For Your Comeback


Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come. Every thing happens for a reason. Life puts you down, only so you can get back up for the better. Live life, forgive and forget. Let go of the past. Your setback is the platform for your comeback.
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You may be going through some stuff today, and there may seem to be no way out of that situation. However, know this: despite your current situation (or situations), you are not stopped from demonstrating God’s love or from sharing the Good News. God has not abandoned you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.

Detach from the things that attempt to drag you down, because this is the only way you are truly going to be able to give yourself a shot at real success.

You see God invests more in you when you’re low so that He then gets a greater return when you rise. Everyone who has accomplished won victories in their lives has had to deal with the setbacks that life is filled with. We are all thrown various obstacles in our lives, and those who go on to make theirs great are those who realize that every setback poses a challenge. A challenge that when conquered will allow them to become a champion in their field.

Everything happens for a reason, although we may not understand it at the time, if you hang in there, all the pieces will eventually fall where they belong. Those who wish to remain normal beings, and do average things will live a linear life. While those who wish to be accomplished know that the graph of their life will show great ups and great downs.

God has a great plan for your life. Put effort into reaching high, even when you are at your lowest points. Move forward, grow on!