Not everyone you lose is a loss.
Learning to love makes us deal with loss in a very upfront way. Many times we try to hold on to love when doing so only digs the hole of despair deeper for our own lives.
Moving on from a person whom you really love can be painful. Things get tough when you realize that the person you wish to spend a lifetime with isn’t a person that you can ever grow with.
Devoting your time and energy towards a person or situation that you will never be able to change alone, is a maddening process. This insane method of trying to manipulate a situation into what you want it to be often never works because it is almost impossible to change a person who doesn’t desire to do so.
Let the pain and weight of the loved one who refuses to change leave your life, or you will never find true peace or happiness.
Let go of the past and the past will let go of you.
You can never change what has happened in the past but you can make your future brighter by remembering your past and learning from it. One of the greatest things we are given as humans is the ability to learn from our past experiences, whether they are wins or pitfalls.
Remember that every day you are given new breath you have choices to make. These choices will lead you into the rest of your life, no matter how small or unimportant these choices will seem to be at the time.
So make it a point to look forward proactively. Meaning, don’t tread lightly when making decisions on a day to day basis. Choose things that will allow you to grow from who you once were into the person that you always desired to be.
Remember a mistake may be a mistake once or twice, but the mistakes that you habitually repeat will eventually become your story. Learn and become great from the experiences of yesterday.
People don’t change unless they want to. Unless something in their life prompts it. You have to learn to see people for who they really are, right from the get-go. If you don’t like something about someone, or how they’re treating you, don’t expect that they’re going to change just for you. It’s who they are. Expecting any different only leads to frustration, disappointment and more hurt or disrespect. Not worth it!
There aren’t many things in life that aren’t possible, but one of them is that people who don’t want to change can’t be helped to be changed by us. There are many in our lives that we know that seem to be willingly undertaken by life and its circumstances. We must all learn that though there are those in our lives who we feel aren’t getting everything out of life that they possibly can, and are living nowhere near to where they may potentially be, there is nothing that we can do for these people if they don’t want change within themselves.
The best way for us to help these people is to try to live as an example of what following your heart can do. Though there are many who need help in ways that we can’t help them, we can still help by sending our prayers and positive thoughts their way as much as possible. We must also be willing to let go of those who are inevitably headed towards destruction, because if that is what they desire in their hearts, there is truly nothing that we can do to change them, they must first want change in their own hearts.
You can’t stay mad at someone who makes you smile.
It is very hard to stay mad at someone who is always willing to make you smile. Though you should always use your heart’s discretion, and though only you may know if someone should be booted from your life or not, we would encourage you to make sure that you keep people around you who will easily make you smile.
The ones who make your heart beat faster, the ones that make your palms sweat, the ones that warm you all over with a simple thought, the ones who are willing to joke with you, the ones that help inspire you to be a better you, and reach heights that you never imagined you could reach, are the ones that should be an integral part of your life.
Never forget the importance of being around those who are willing to support and be there for you just to see you happy, because these are the only ones that will be with you with 100% on the road to fulfilling your dreams.
Love is caring for each other even when you’re angry.
Having someone who wants to do nothing but grow old with you, is something that is very special to have, and something that not everyone is blessed to find in this beautiful world! When you find a good love, it is very easy to see past a persons flaws and it is even easier to want to give them all of you for the rest of your life.
Though some get a real love confused with great passion for a person, if a love is real it will show after a long period of time. A love between two people can only be sustained forever if it is genuine, and if both parties involved are willing to work as hard as they possibly can to make sure that it lasts.
When you finally do decide to dedicate your life to someone, be sure to remember what this dedication entails, and remember to always be yourself to give your partner a real sense of who you are at all times, and not just who you think they want you to be.
A problem is a chance for you to do your best.
Doing your best is first sparked by being yourself. If you can’t plant seeds that will bear fruit that you have no appetite for, you won’t eat, and when you don’t eat, you starve. Your happiness is determined by a lot of things, but at the root of it all you have to learn how to be yourself, and learn how to live a life working towards becoming your best “self”.
There will be those who try to make your life miserable by trying to tell you what you can and cant do. There will be many obstacles and barriers on the way to becoming a powerful, and confident person, knowing which direction that you want to take in life.
But, we have to continue to strive to be our best! Everything that you do today will affect your future in some sort of way. Make the best decisions for you and for the people who you desire to bless and be an inspiration to!
I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.
It happens as we get older and grow up and change. Friendships that we thought would be in our lives forever turn out to have an expiration date. Your lives are on two separate tracks and it seems that there’s no going back. And as much as you love her and cherish the memories you’ve shared together, you know in your heart that the friendship has run its course.
Maybe it’s that your friend is overwhelmingly emotionally needy and draining you of your time and energy. Or maybe she lied to you, betrayed you, or inflicted some other pain upon you. Or maybe your friend is incredibly negative, cynical, and pessimistic and works overtime to rain on your parade because she’s jealous of your sun and tired of her shade. Or maybe she doesn’t make the effort and you are tired of being the one to always reach out. Whatever the case may be – if a friendship brings out the WORST in you rather than the BEST in you, it’s not a friendship that belongs in your life.
You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them…but still move on without them. The friendship had significance, and meaning, and importance…for a season. And that season has passed. Just like you wouldn’t wear a bikini in the winter or snow boots in the summer…it makes no sense to try to extend a friendship that was only meant to be a season into a lifetime…
Keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.
Keeping a cool humble demeanor, avoiding being too proud, and keeping your hopes up high, are things that are very beneficial for you to do in your life so that you may ultimately become who you desire to be. Keeping your hopes up high isn’t always the easiest task to accomplish, especially when life gets tough.
To keep your hopes up high you have to first adjust your thinking to do so. If you are constantly thinking, speaking, hearing and seeing negative words, chances are you will have a lot of trouble with keeping a joyous and hopeful attitude, as you deal with life, and all of it’s troubles.
Instead of nonchalantly allowing negative energy to infiltrate your life, and your thinking, be proactive and aggressive in seeking a more positive environment for yourself to be immersed in.
Thinking positively in this world is very important in being able to sustain the hope and right attitudes needed to make the best out of each situation in life, which will very greatly affect the quality of life for us as well.
Every human walks around with a certain kind of sadness. They may not wear it on their sleeves, but it’s there if you look deep. Life is ironic it takes sadness to know what happiness is. Noise to appreciate silence. Absence to value presence.
In life and all of it’s business we have to take time out to be appreciative for it, and for all that it entails. We may not be the healthiest, but we have enough health to live, we may not be the wealthiest but we have enough wealth to live, these are things we should be grateful for, because some people that were here yesterday are gone today because of the lacking of one of these two things.
Sometimes we make life more difficult than it really is, and instead of being appreciative for who we really are, and what we are capable of becoming, we let life and its circumstances get us down instead.
Take some time out each day to reflect upon your performance for that day, the application of your mind, and the plans and goals you may have for tomorrow. Doing so will help unleash your full potential.
If you’re giving your all to someone and it’s not enough you’re probably giving it to the wrong person.
Sometimes we give our all to someone and we end up being hurt by this same person. When we experience a pain like this, it cuts very deep, and we start to question ourselves and whether we gave a good enough effort, and if we did everything right that we may have possibly been able to.
Heartbreak is a very difficult thing to deal with, and sometimes in life we deal with it in the wrong ways. Don’t blame yourself, when someone else chooses not to be with you. Everyone has choices to make in life, and you can’t force someone to be with you.
More importantly, you shouldn’t have to want to force someone to be with you! If someone doesn’t recognize you for the greatness inside of you, and if they can’t see how much of an addition that you are to their lives, then they most certainly don’t deserve to be a part of your life! Let them go, you deserve someone who will treat you as the special being you truly are!