Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right. 2018 is over. 2019 is here. As we start the journey of this New Year it is a good time to reflect on the year that is ending and look forward into the year that is soon to begin. Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
All of us wonder what the new year will bring. I don’t know of any more relevant and practical advice for us at the start off 2019 than to say that the old year ends, a new begins with pages clean and new; And what is written on each page will now depend on you. We don’t have to live our lives imprisoned by our past because you can’t relive the year that’s past, erasing every wrong; for once a year – or day – is spent, It is forever gone. We are to allow a heavenly perspective to govern our earthly walk! Every decision, every activity, every plan and purpose is to be considered in the light of eternity. Everything is to be laid out before the Lord and considered not from an earthly, sensual perspective, but from the viewpoint of Heaven because the steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, and He delights in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; For the LORD upholds him with His hand.
I think that the start of the New Year is a good time for us to rise to that challenge and to say to ourselves that I am going to, with the help of God, forget my past. I am going to stop torturing myself about what I did or didn’t do. This New Year is a good time to stop being chained to our past failures. Don’t give up in dark despair if you have failed some test; Seek God’s forgiveness and resolve henceforth to do your best. Resolve each precious day to do things good and kind and pure; Though days and years may pass away, these things shall still endure. You know not where your path may lead nor what’s beyond the hill; But know that God walks at your side, if you will do God’s will. We should remember that all things are possible with God, though days be bright or dim;
So do your best and know that you can leave the rest to God. Be encouraged, the future rests in the good hands of a God who loves you more than you can imagine. You may stumble this year, but you won’t completely fall. This is God’s promise to you.
Thank you all for your support in 2018! Happy New Year to you, your friends and family! Here’s to 2019!!! 🍾🥂 I LOVE YOU ALL!!!
Christmas is my favorite time of the year! There are different ways to practice kindness this season. One way to be kind is to open your eyes and be active when you see people in need. Do you notice when people around us needs a helping hand? A sense of community is created when people are kind to those who need help. Sometimes people just need to hear some encouraging and kind words in order to bring a smile to their face, so why not just do it already? Being kind to someone could change their entire day if you let it. Try and put this to the test by complimenting someone today, or maybe even reach out to one of your friends and let them know that you are proud of them. The little things mean the most to people and go a long way, so be kind to others and get some good karma on your side.
People may not remember what you said, or what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Why not leave them with something positive this season. The holidays arrive each year with an abundance of expectations. We’re expected to be having fun and feeling joy, to be surrounded by loved ones and a warm, connected family to which we effortlessly belong. We’re expected to be busy and enjoying all sorts of exciting and festive activities, doing special holiday things. In short, we’re expected to be happy…well, actually, not just happy, happier than we are at any other time of the year. There are people out there who struggle every single day to get out of bed and do normal life things, so if they hear something negative, it could set them over the edge. That is why I think it is crucial for people to be kind to others and just learn to stop being so mean and hateful. The truth is, many people do not have warm and loving families to go home to, relatives with whom they feel they genuinely belong. Many are not busy with exciting and interesting things to do throughout the season. And the fact that they aren’t having the holiday season they’re expected to have makes them feel even worse about themselves — less joyful and less happy. It can be as simple as a smiling at someone, giving up your old wears to someone who cannot afford it, or buying food for the hungry, homeless man. It’s a way of connecting, if only for a short moment, with those people we pass in our daily lives. Everyone is affected by an act of kindness. Kindness is contagious and you never know just how big of an impact a small gesture of kindness can have.
There are many ways to be kind and many opportunities to practice. Perhaps kindness is a value that could add more satisfaction to and strengthen your relationships. It doesn’t have to cost anything, either; what’s important is that it’s an act of expressing genuine care for another person. In fact, there’s no limit to the ways in which we can be kind to others – all we need to do is pay attention to those around us and start seeing opportunities to help! Whatever it might be for you, give yourself the space to honor the transition that this season brings and to welcome its gifts with open arms. We must reorient ourselves towards kindness, compassion, service, love, and simplicity — the qualities that this season’s teachings are all about.
Are you facing a seemingly impossible situation? Is what you’re asking God for seem unlikely to come to pass? Is your faith being tested? Perhaps, you feel completely trapped, hedged in and overwhelmed, with no solution in sight. Maybe you’re confronted with a challenge where there is no resolution. Or, your heart is heavy with doubt as you can’t figure out what to do next, for there appears to be nothing you can do about what you now face. On an emotional roller-coaster, you could be wondering, “How can things change for the better?” However, impossibilities are the platforms upon which God does His best work. Have faith. With man it may be impossible. But with God, all things are possible.
The perfect sweet spot with the Lord is when we have to trust Him rather than ourselves. We are called to walk by faith, not by our strength, cleverness, or insights. The Lord always works by ways and means that seem impossible. Never feel uncomfortable for feeling different, or feeling God is pulling you to a new chapter in your life. Just learn to trust and have faith in what God has planned for you. You’ve even considered giving up and your hope is at an all time low. But no need to fret, because God is purposely making you uncomfortable in order to make you move! His purpose is greater than your understanding. When all else fails-when your every plan and scheme has been exhausted-that is the time for you to cast everything on God. It is time for you to give up all confidence in finding deliverance anywhere else. Then, once you are ready to believe, you are to see God not as a potter who needs clay, but as a Creator who works from nothing. And, out of nothing that is of this world or its materials, God will work in ways and means you never could have conceived. The blessed reality is that God grants deliverance. When you see only impossibilities in your life and all your ways are hedged up, there is still a God in heaven Who can save to the uttermost. He hears the needy when they cry and He delivered much more. Just trust GOD because Faith does not operate in the realm of the possible. There is no glory for God in that which is humanly possible. Faith begins where man’s power ends.
Life’s not about people who act true to your face. It’s about people who remain true behind your back and real friends are always going to be there by your side, even at times when you tell them to leave because friendship is always a sweet responsibility never an opportunity.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. If you already have a real friend in your life, then you know that through thick, and through thin, they will always be there for you. Not to judge you, or to tell you that they tried to warn you before, not to bring you down, or kick you while your down, but instead to help pick you up when you fall, or to sit with you and help talk you into getting back up. Not all of us have had friends like these and if we want one all we must do is be a friend like this to someone who needs it. If you plant seeds of love, in good faith, and in good hopes, it will be returned into your own life abundantly. Be that friend for someone who needs someone by their side. Be that friend for that person going through a bad break up, family problems, or other forms of instability in their own lives, and you will surely find the same in your own life. The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them. Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything because a good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world. Our true friends are those who are with us when the good things happen. They cheer us on and are pleased by our triumphs. False friends only appear at difficult times, with their sad, supportive faces, when, in fact, our suffering is serving to console them for their miserable lives. There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship just because your wealth is where your friends are. Always remember that it’s not where you are in life, it’s who you have by your side that matters. God bless you.
If we can achieve the ultimate state of self-mastery, we will more consistently have the personal power and peace of mind we need to get ahead, since we are not giving our time, energy, and power away to others; we are taking responsibility for ourselves and how much we can affect change in our lives. God uses uncharted territories to prepare us for new and great things. There is no growth to be found in the stagnant and mundane. Allow life’s newest “surprise” to stretch you to new limits in the best ways possible.
Those people who have the greatest success first needed to believe in what they have to offer the world. You need to trust that your unique contribution is worthwhile. You are the only one who can make it happen for you. Others can support and encourage you, but you have to find the energy within in order to step into the center of your own life and take charge. God puts dreams in our hearts and writes a destiny over our lives. And if we trust Him enough to take Him at His word, we will find ourselves on a journey toward the fulfillment of that dream. Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are. One cannot get through life without pain. What we can do is choose how to use the pain life presents to us and when you don’t understand the reason behind your struggle just know that God is preparing you. He’s developing your gifts, talents, and abilities. He’s broadening your understanding of how to navigate your way through life. We grow through adversity. We need not seek it out; we can all look back at moments when our lives were in utter chaos, desolation and despair. Growth comes when we respond to adversity by stretching just an edge beyond our talent and experience and through our struggles, God molds, shapes, and refines us. He gets us prepared to effectively fulfill our ultimate purpose in the earth because we all have weak spots and areas of inconsistency in our character. Just as God is preparing me, He is preparing you too. He’s perfecting the gifts in you. And in his timing, he will elevate you. In your struggles, God is preparing you for better. Be thankful for every experience and your latter will be greater. Always remember that life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like because to improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.
It’s often said that change is the only constant in life. Yet humans are evolutionarily predisposed to resist change because of the risk associated with it. Despite this resistance to change, it is more important than ever. Most people are not happy with their life. Yet they continually venture down the same road of unhappiness. Never willing to change. As you take a birds eye view of your current lifestyle, do you like what you see? Are your relationships, career choices, financial situation and other aspects of your life truly satisfying? Or do you feel there should be more? If you don’t like change, you will like irrelevance even less because change means that what was before wasn’t perfect. People want things to be better. Sometimes it is necessary to sort through the main issues in our lives and work out what is really bothering us. Chances are, it’s not the events themselves but the thoughts and feelings behind them that are causing the emotional disturbance.
Change doesn’t necessarily come about as a result of what we think will precipitate it and when it doesn’t, it’s easy to conclude that it can’t happen. There’s something attractive, even compelling about believing that making substantive changes in our lives is unrealistic or even impossible but we need to understand that every journey in our life started with a single step forward, as long as you keep moving, you will eventually begin to change your life. When deciding you want change in your life, you must truly get upset with your current situation. Your emotions are very powerful. And you’ll find that by using this energy as a catalyst for change, your desired life will be within your grasp. We need to remind ourselves always that no matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself. Whatever your scenario may be, you must make a drastic shift in your mentality. Keep in mind, the more significant your desired life outcome, the stronger your convictions for change must be. Learning to love and enjoy YOU is the most important tool in changing your life too because at the end of the day, all you have is you, so learning how to love yourself, support yourself and be your best friend is paramount.
You must pay for everything in this world one way and another. There is nothing free with the exception of God’s grace. We do bargaining everyday in our life. Every action of ours is followed by an outcome, which is the cost we pay for the action we have taken. Sometimes we do not pay attention to what we are doing, how we are behaving and how that will affect our life. Even small things sometimes make huge difference in our life.
It’s easy to make excuses for why you cannot do things. But nothing in life is free, and not every goal is going to be simple to reach. Regardless of position, situation, or circumstance, if you want something you have to work for it. Isn’t it good to know that you don’t have to be perfect to be used by God. You don’t have to have it all together to accomplish something meaningful and lasting. Nothing is going to come right away, and if you’re looking for a quick-fix for everything, you’re not going to find it and you might as well just give up now if you insist on keeping the same attitude. If life wasn’t challenging, we’d all grow bored. God can take whatever he has already given you to do what he has created you to do before you were ever born. We just have to have the faith to believe that without being perfect and without living up to other’s opinions about us we can live a life that is both dynamic as well as pleasing and acceptable to God. Life isn’t always going to be everything you expect it to be. But you gotta suck it up and stick it out. Be glad you even have a life. So many people have wanted to live theirs and were denied the opportunity. Live yours, without excuses, and with less worry. Just take a breath, grit your teeth, smile, and keep trucking because nothing in life worth having comes easy. Nothing in life that is worth having is free. Nothing in life worth having is not without a fight.
How can we forgive others, if we can’t even forgive ourselves? None of us are perfect and we all have flaws.
It’s not about forgiving another. Forgiveness is not about forgiving your parents, friends, loved ones. Forgiveness exists when you love yourself so much you realize all the choices you’ve made were the best choices you could make at that point in time. Nothing in life blocks the feelings of gratitude more than anger and resentment. This is why I say that the practice of gratitude requires the work of forgiveness. One can never feel grateful to your loved one who has done you wrong or abused you while you are still angry about their wrong doings, abuse or insensitivity, nor can one ever receive the gifts of a relationship that has ended. If you can forgive your friend, or even a stranger, why can’t you forgive yourself? we have to learn how to forgive ourselves. While the careless among us waste little time or conscience berating themselves for the mistakes that they have made, the overly self-conscious can’t seem to stop beating themselves over the head.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future and only you can come to the place where you want to forgive. What helps the forgiveness process is to actually understand that resentment is a second-hand attitude or emotion, plus also a cover for underlying feelings that you have never expressed. Learn from the hurt and pain that people have caused you. If you really took the time to express fully what your hurt and pain is and state your new boundary, you’ll begin to be grateful for the lessons the wound has taught you. You will be able to stand up for yourself, be kinder towards others, stop hurting other people’s feelings, betraying them or whatever the case may be. True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment. It’s fine to have high expectations for one’s self, but not if it means destroying your own self-esteem. What loving yourself does mean, is that you learn to have self-respect and you take care of your body, mind and spirit — it means having a sense of purpose in life, striving to improve ourselves and working to help others. For me, it really means “I love me and thus, I love you” — and if everyone centers their life around love and compassion, the world becomes a much, much better place.
YOU are important! You have a unique purpose, that only you can fulfill. What you think of yourself is much more important than what other people think of you.
No matter who you are, you can provide value. We each have an individual purpose that cannot be compared to everyone else. You have a different perspective to share. You can shed light on a situation that maybe no one else can possibly provide. You can utilize your unique experiences to help and positively influence others. In order to be the best you period, you must be willing to show yourself love by making time for yourself. In a world full of hustle and bustle it is easy to get so distracted and so far away from the notion that spending time with yourself is one of the best investments that we are able to make in our lives. We must be willing to make time for ourselves in order to realize who we really are, to figure out which directions that we want to go in life, and to be able to plan how to get there. We must also make time for ourselves because doing so will help keep us sane. Sure having company and being around uplifting positive people is definitely healthy for us, but we will always need that little bit of me time as regularly as possible in order to never forget who we are, and how important being ourselves is. At the end of the day, always remember that You Are Important. STOP comparing yourself to everyone else. Value, appreciate and learn from others, but don’t cut yourself short. We have all unique abilities and talents. Always remain Humble and Kind but believe in yourself and appreciate Your Own Value.
There is no one else in the world that comes even close to being like you. You have your own individual strengths and talents. You have your own unique perspective that provides a very special kind of insight for the world. Be sharing your experiences and viewpoints you can benefit the lives of others around you. You have faced special challenges in the world that no one else has. Life is a great big challenge for everyone, you have been bucked off the horse of life time and again, but always had the strength to climb back on. Your challenges have developed you into a stronger individual, turn your challenges into lessons and help others to learn from them. You can Provide Happiness. You can Provide Joy into the lives of others. Make sure to tell those around you whom you love and care for, how much You Do Care. Give them a hug and a smile. Not only tell them, but SHOW THEM each day. Love and care provides continuous fulfillment in your life and the lives of others, keep spreading your kindness and love. You never know whose day you may brighten. Your Love, Care and Kindness Makes a Difference. The version you are of yourself today is not who you will be in 10 years from now. During the journey of life we are meant to consistently learn and grow. The sad truth is that some people never learn this fact and stop pushing themselves to forward. Be a LEADER. Leadership is about inspiring and influencing others. Leadership is about influencing others to achieve their own Greatness. YOU can be a Leader. No matter who you are, YOU can positively influence and lead others. You can lend a helping hand. You can provide encouragement. YOU can make a difference in the lives of others. Never underestimate yourself and your capabilities. Be Passionate, Be Genuine, Be Yourself. And always remember that YOU MATTER. You Are Important.
Nobody can be perfect. But there is still immense value you can get from debugging those inconsistencies. Making the gap between your walk and your talk a little bit smaller.
Imperfections are part of life. I think it’s sad that some people feel that because being perfectly consistent with your values is impossible, that there is no point trying to debug the inconsistencies. Some self-improvement cynicism is the result of demanding the impossible, expecting perfection instead of progress. It’s a tough world. People step on each other to rise higher and sell each other out to earn more. There are some people who just don’t want to compete. What they earn is more than enough for some people. If you have peace with it and genuinely don’t care about earning more, then this post was not meant for you. But if you picked your path just to be safe from all this chaos, then hear me out.
Step out of the crowd of average people. Enter that game and change the values on the scoreboard. Conventional wisdom is a shortcut from actual thinking. When you rely on the majority to give you career, diet and spiritual advice you avoid thinking about these issues for yourself. Often when you peel off the covering, and start to understand the systems behind it, you can come up with more satisfying and less risky solutions to your problems. You cannot take long term decisions based on what the circumstances look like today. The road you take might seem safe right now, but what about tomorrow, next month, next year? You need to think about the future. You should not lower your expectations to meet your income, you should rise your income to meet your expectations. I’m still finding new tools, but the fact that this list is small shows that self-improvement doesn’t need to be overly complicated. One good tool, if practiced, can debug a large range of problems. Personal development and unconventional choices often lead to the most success. There are a lot of people around you who are secretly working for their dreams. You only see them out doing nothing but they spend their free time working hard. Never forget that. But despite their appearance, they often hold the least risk. So work harder. Take risks. That is the only way.