Carve Your Name On Hearts, Not Tombstones.

Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you. What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.
What kind of mark do you want to leave by the time you are gone? Is it one that will truly stand the test of time, or one that will be easily forgotten? What things do you want people to say about you after you are gone? What stories will they share? What memories will you leave in people’s minds and hearts? Inside of all of us there is the need and the desire to be heard, to have our innermost thoughts, feelings and desires expressed for others to hear, to see and to understand. We all want to matter to someone, to leave a mark. Writers just take those thoughts, feelings and desires and express them in such a way that the reader not only reads them but feels them as well.

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. People who have real vision know that being great isn’t a matter of beating out people who have already done great things. Instead, people who leave a ding in the universe set out to be the best version of themselves daily. Visionaries love the challenge of new opportunities and are always looking for doors to open. All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.

Having a legacy you want to leave behind gives your life more meaning. It gives you a sense of purpose and a pretty awesome reason to get up every morning and take on the days challenges. So, my challenge to you today is to really ask yourself, what do I want to leave with the world while I’m here, and what do I want to gift to the world long after I’m gone?
Building a legacy worth leaving behind begins today and is made one decision at a time. Those who leave behind great legacies don’t worry about looking foolish. They believe in what burns inside of them so much that what burns inside of them becomes their reality. This is what allows great people to truly live. This principle is what differentiates people from living average lives to living great lives that will help to shape the generations to come. The only thing you take with you when you’re gone is what you leave behind because we didn’t inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children.

Change Your Thoughts, Transform Your Life

There is only one thing that causes you to live either the life of your dreams or the life of your worst fears. Just one thing that keeps you healthy or causes you to be sick or die. Only one thing that causes you to be in poverty or have financial riches. Your thoughts!
Your thoughts are living things. In fact your thoughts are probably the most powerful thing in your life right now that you cant see physically. Your thoughts are your vehicle to the life you want to live. If you refuse to protect your thoughts you will eventually live a life full of chaos and worry. This is because thinking positively requires a great amount of effort to be habitual. If one refuses to train their mind, their lives will as a result be trained by every force that surrounds them, including negativity. Remind yourself daily that there is no way to happiness; rather, happiness is the way.

Relax, let go, allow, and recognize that some of your desires are about how you think your world should be, rather than how it is in that moment. Become an astute observer . . . judge less and listen more. So to change our lives, or to change our trajectory, we must first start with what is on the inside of us. To change our physical surroundings we must first overcome them in our minds. It’s important to note that there is no wrong way to feel or think. People’s reality is filtered through their own lens of perception, which is different for everyone. Many of us have long-standing ways of doing things, and the good news is that we can always change habits. It’s about taking a step back and observing what kinds of thoughts we have about ourselves, and changing these thoughts.

When you think and talk about what you want and how to get it, you feel happier and in greater control of your life. Have the confidence to overcome by refusing to allow negative thoughts to remain inside of you. When you hear negative attitudes or thoughts speak life, be willing to rely on the wisdom that the things you achieve will first come from the most prevalent thoughts inside of your own mind. Assume the best of intentions on the part of everyone around you.  Most people are pretty decent, honest and are trying to do the very best they know how to.  When you look for something good in their words and actions, you will almost always find something. 

Finally, resolve to be cheerful, no matter what happens.  A positive attitude, looking on the bright side, is most important when things go wrong.

Don’t Wait For The Perfect Moment

Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. Most of the time, excuses are made out of pure laziness. For people who are constantly making excuses… the negative energy it takes to do so could instead be used on getting things done!
Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it. Stop wishing, get tough, and do what you need to do to make your life what you want it to be. We only have a certain amount of time to do it.

Wishing is cool, it helps you gather direction and a plan for your life’s journey. But wishing by itself is not enough. On top of wishing and hoping, you have to be willing to plan for your goal and then work towards it.

Working towards a great goal may take years at a time. You may even find yourself lost and unsure after a while. This is normal, keep your eyes on the prize.

Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. Be courageous and brave on the way to your destiny. Never stop working and trying to make happen what you know is for you.

So what is your dream? That perfect moment is now. What are you going to do to make it happen? This is one of the biggest keys to achieving and maintaining real success in life. Only you can change your life! Don’t wait for the perfect moment, make every moment perfect!

Rejection Is God’s Protection

We have all been rejected at some point in our lives and I want to tell you congratulations! Rejection is God’s way of saying wrong direction. 
Those who are successful in life don’t see rejection as a bad thing because they know with each rejection that they are closer to their victory. When someone rejects or breaks up with you, it may be a blessing in disguise. The person was not right for you. Or maybe you would have eventually been miserable with them. Now the door is open for someone else much better to come into your life.

Rejection is someone’s personal opinion about you, it isn’t how God sees you or who you are. If you were rejected in a relationship, for whatever reason, that is that person’s opinion, not God’s. If you were fired from a job, that is that company’s opinion, not God’s. Never allow someone’s opinion become the definition of who you are in God. Stop letting the fear of rejection stop you from living a free life. In your life journey, you will absolutely encounter many types of rejection. There will be people who tell you not to believe in yourself, or your dreams. There will be doubts you have in your own mind as well. But refuse to give up, and refuse to let any negative thinking rule you.

Instead of weeping at the door of rejection, we should lift up our eyes and locate the open door of favour that is open before us. Rejection simply tells us that favour is nearby and we should seek it. The more and more you are willing to try, the more opportunities you will see arise in your life. Not everyone is going to like you, what you say, what you are trying to sell, and so on. Don’t let anyone else’s disbelief stop you from getting to the victories that you know are meant for you. Remember, rejection is just an illusion. The reality is that you are 100% lovable just the way you are. So turn people’s rejection in to your heavenly Father’s protection!

Let Go Of Yesterday…

If you think about it, Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.
We can’t change the past! Why does everyone always focus on whats already happened and not will happen. Complaining never helped anyone get over their pasts. Not only does complaining diminish any chance you may of had being happy, it also helps to program the belief that we have no power to do anything about changing our situation.

Why not just let go of yesterday, learn from it, so that you’ll be able to have a better tomorrow. If you are ever going to get past having an attitude full of complaining and bitterness you must be willing to work at it daily. You will have to actively take part in doing things to change this damaged mindset like practicing being thankful when you are tempted to just complain.

The best thing to do is let your mistakes go. Focus on the things that are positive that are happening in your life, and be willing to say goodbye to the things in your life that only cause you to complain and wear you down.

Let go of yesterday. Let today be a new beginning and be the best that you can, and you’ll get to where God wants you to be. Make life yours. Get past the mistakes of the past by learning from them and moving on. Change what you can today; make it better today. For this will ensure a better tomorrow.

Train Your Mind To See The Good In Every Situation

What we do see depends mainly on what we look for… In the same field the farmer will notice the crop, the geologists the fossils, botanists the flowers, artists the colouring, sportmen the cover for the game. Though we may all look at the same things, it does not all follow that we should see them. Train your mind to see the Good in every situation and you will train yourself to make lemonade out of lemons.

One door is never closed that another is not opened up for us to live something better, the good in it all. Think back to some of the things you have encountered or situations that have presented themselves. Learning about perspective in life is key to being able to continue to grow and provide yourself with new challenges. Your thinking is established and set from everything that you have ever learned and will only change as needed when you decide to challenge your deepest ideals and beliefs.

Look at how you observe and decipher your situations. Are they good learning opportunities, or are they the worst thing that has ever happened to you? Can you look back and see where you thought something was horrendous, but now you can see how it all worked out for the greater good or for the better? There is beauty all around if you are willing to just look and see, and there are always blessings hidden in what we do, as long as our motives are righteous.  So much of how you approach life depends on your attitude. If you are looking for the good in people, then that’s likely what you’ll find. If you approach things negatively, then that’s how you’ll see them. Do you look at the glass as being half-empty or half-full?

What is the Nature of Your Mind; Your mind is like a flawless crystal ball, radiant and clear. Your mind is like the sun, brilliant and powerful by nature. Your mind is like space, vast and indestructible. So, your mind is already totally powerful! You can train yourself easily and quickly to recognize and utilize this power of your mind to be of benefit to all. Celebrate the small battles you win in life, every single one that you can. Know that life isn’t always going to make sense, and though we may never make sense of it all, we can still celebrate when the time is appropriate and keep a positive attitude despite our present circumstances.

Remember to embrace the things and people around that will always help to keep you when life seems to be it’s hardest. Most of all, keep looking for new things to see, always because there is always something good that comes out of every learning opportunity. If you know you have been looking at the glass half empty, and you know you are not where you really want to be ~ Take your first step in always looking for the GOOD in every situation.

Everyone Who Is In Your Life Is Meant To Be A Part Of That Journey

Everyone who is in your life is meant to be a part of that JOURNEY, but not all of them are meant to STAY. Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.
Maybe some people just aren’t meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some people are just passing through. It’s like some people just come through our lives to bring us something: a gift, a blessing, a lesson we need to learn. And that’s why they’re here. You’ll have that gift forever. The more that you grow and find yourself the more that you’ll realize, certain people just don’t make sense for your life.

Leave the drama behind, the negativity out and people with constant issues. Life is too good, better and each morning you wake up is a reminder that it is a beginning of your life not the past that burden you to consume who you are. Learn from your past, live today and consider changes for the better tomorrow. Those who figures out this simple life equations lives betters. The progression in your own life should be met with the progression of the people who are closest to you.

You have to cherish every moment of it. Life brings unexpected things and you’ll never know what will happen next. Our true friends are here to see us grow and to thrive. Friendships should help to constantly push us towards the direction of growth, while also relying upon us to help hold them accountable for doing so.

When you realize that the people around you aren’t doing this, or may be prohibiting you from reaching your goals, you may have a problem. Sometimes life will make you give up what you love most.

If you are truly excited about life and if you are truly focused on changing this world to make it a better place, you can’t get caught up in expending energy on the things and people that aren’t for you. Treat all people well, but focus on giving your love to the friendships and relationships that actually mean something. Live the reality today! Work what you have today and don’t plan on spending more than what you can afford. Not everyone is meant to stay forever.

Commitment Means Staying Loyal Regardless Of Circumstances

Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than the words. It is making the time when there is none. Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.

1641759True commitment to someone means that you aren’t  just willing to be there for them during the good times, but that you will be there for them during the bad times as well. Think of at least one major accomplishment in your life that has really made you proud of yourself. Now, think of the initial commitment you made when you got started. On a scale of 1-10, how committed were you?  Were you very committed or simply desiring something?  There’s a vast difference between the two. When you simply desire something, you do it only when circumstances permit. When you’re committed, you accept no excuses, only results.

At times you will be tempted to put yourself first. Sometimes you’ll worry that if you don’t, you won’t succeed, you’ll fall behind. At these moments, you’ll have a choice to make. And I hope you choose to do something for someone else without expecting anything in return. In my view, that’s the meaning of unconditional love. When we love someone and agree to be with them, we are saying that we will continue to commit to them and no matter what obstacles get in the way you will continue to grow, together. When you tie the knot of a relationship, you do it on the basis of commitment, love and respect. You and your partner are close due to the promise made to be with each other through all the odds of life. However, if the promise made was just a lip service and there was no commitment, the relationship is left astray.

You must understand the complete consequences of your commitment and fully mean it when you say it. When you make a commitment, others will take you seriously and rely on you to be true to your word. Falling in love is the easy part, while keeping love afloat is the more difficult part. When dealing with love, one thing is true throughout every relationship, there will be tests along the way. No one is perfect and because we are imperfect things will go wrong when we deal with other people. Remember that love is like all aspects of life, it is a commitment, and you must be willing to fight hard for it to work. Always remember that commitment is not the act of losing your freedom; but exercising it to choose who you want to give your most valuable gifts to: Your time, your emotions, and your heart. Commitment is an act, not a word.

In Humility Hold Others Above Yourself

We may think we’re being humble by disregarding our emotions and needs to focus on other people. It’s not true and it doesn’t work! Don’t think less of yourself, think of yourself less.
Learning to be selfless is learning about your true purpose in life. In some way or another, your purpose will always center around the service of others. Nobody is helped when you think poorly of yourself! If you judge yourself as “too needy,” “too emotional,” or “too bad to be loved” then you’ll just push your feelings down into your unconscious mind, burying them somewhere in your body. This drains your energy and confidence and makes it really hard for you to be compassionate and kind to other people and to worship God.

What purpose are you living for in life? Asking this question is great for those attempting to begin in their journeys of selflessness as it challenges a person to think about how their core ideals are shaping their lives. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

Humility is fundamentally a form of self-forgetfulness as opposed to pride’s self-fixation. Do remember, life requires balance at all times, if you give too much of yourself and wither away you will only be help to a few. If you coordinate your selflessness with your love for self correctly, you will be able to reach unfathomable amounts of people. The only humility that is really ours is not that which we try to show before God in prayer, but that which we carry with us in our daily conduct.

Whatever makes us feel superior to other people, whatever tempts us to convey a sense of superiority, that is the gravity of our sinful nature, not grace. Appreciate life. Be considerate and always be willing to look at things from different perspectives without ever compromising who you are at your core. A lot of times all that people need from us is understanding, and someone to lean on. Be that person who helps others, be that person who is self-less. You do not need to downplay your achievements or be unwilling to accept praise to be a humble person. It is important to appreciate what others do too, and give them credit when they are deserving. I’ve learned that humility is something difficult to understand. There are times for taking credit and being proud, but there are times to praise others and downplay your own importance. You need to find balance in your life and do all of these things at the proper time. Nobody is absolutely perfect at this, and it will be an ongoing struggle. Effort is what it is really about.

Rising Above Your Present Situations

There is no peace in this world except that which comes from God alone. We all have circumstances in our lives that we wish we could change, but we cannot. Happiness depends on the “happenings in our lives;” joy depends on our perspective. 

God’s ultimate purposes for our lives are often achieved by circumstances that seem to make no “apparent” sense to us. Rising above your circumstances takes heart, and takes a willingness to be able to look past where you have been to understand why you’re at where you are at in the present. There are a lot of people going through difficult circumstances right now and and they have to learn to trust who they are on the inside to escape the troubles and circumstances that seem to bury them in the present moment.

Look around you. Expand that vision outward to look from a larger perspective beyond just people you know. There are certainly people who are struggling. Take a closer look. Can you find examples of people who are doing well or are at least successfully overcoming challenges? Are some people recreating themselves so that they can continue on their path to achieving their deepest desires? Some of these people are even helping others do the same.

You have to be stronger than what surrounds you externally by being the best person you can be internally. You will fail in certain instances, and in some situations you may figuratively feel like your life is burning up in flames. Will yourself to continue the fight. Only then will you be able to survive the flames, and patch up the wounds delivered by the blows of life.  Sometimes it’s even easier to believe that how we feel at any given moment is directly dependent on the nature of our circumstances. That’s what most of us have been taught from an early age. If you weren’t, you’re the exception.

We are used to thinking we feel good when times are good and we feel bad when times are bad. But I bet you can remember a time when some things weren’t going so well in your life and you felt pretty darned good. Even if for a brief time. Or maybe you remember a time you were talking with a friend who was down in the dumps and complaining nonstop. But then you distracted him or her with something, changed the direction of the conversation and all of a sudden they were laughing.

How do you explain that? What happened is you shifted their thinking. They shifted from thinking thoughts of misery to thinking thoughts of something much better. Whatever circumstance they thought was making them miserable or overly worried didn’t change. But something changed, so what was it? What changed was the person’s thoughts. What we are focused on at the moment determines our mood. Our thoughts lead to our feelings. In other words, when we shift our thinking, our feelings and emotions shift as well.

Lessons in life come bearing the gift of wisdom. We miss this gift when we begin to identify with the challenge or set back as “who we are.” You are more than that – as is everyone else on this planet. We are far greater than we can imagine, but we doubt and we allow our current circumstances to dictate our possibilities. This is perhaps one of the greatest mistakes we can make.

Our circumstances are here, but they are not who we are. You will rise again if you just believe that you can do so. Life will continue to change, but if you constantly remember that you are more than your circumstances, and that one day you will get to where you need to be, eventually these aspirations will become your reality. God has a purpose for your life no matter what your circumstance.  He wants to build potential faith.  He wants to build your personal faith. So what will your circumstances become for you?  A tombstone or a steppingstone?