A Beautiful Face Doesn’t Mean Anything

What’s the whole point of being pretty on the outside when you’re so ugly on the inside? The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express. Looks don’t mean everything. Id rather have a beautiful conversation than a pretty face to look at.
A person is only beautiful, when their own beauty, is reflecting on to others. Close your eyes and be aware of the real beauty, for the real beauty comes from the thoughts and beliefs that are on the inside of us. It is these beliefs that make us who we are to the world. The wise do not buy into other people’s perceptions of who they are and what they are capable of. Instead, they bypass a person’s public persona and see who they are in their highest expression. When you see actions taken with integrity, instead of words only, you will then know a soul’s worth.

Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful,  we must carry it with us or we find it not. In a society caught up in the way that everyone looks we have to be willing to go against the norm if we seek to build relationships with individuals who are full of true beauty. We have to be willing to put the superficial tendencies we have as a society aside to try and understand others who have true wisdom and depth.

There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. No one is perfect, but don’t waste your time with those who refuse to think of anything other than what is on the outside. Instead give your time to people who actually know who they are, and who will help and encourage you to do the same because beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are.

The realest beauty doesn’t lie in a persons looks or material assets, it lies in their heart. True beauty is not related to what color your hair is or what color your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compass. Always remember that outer beauty only pleases the EYE but Inner beauty will forever captivates the HEART. We are beautiful because we are sons and daughters of God, not because we look a certain way.

Learn How To Fight Alone

If you want to be strong learn how to fight alone because the more you love your decisions the less you need others to love them.
Though we live in a world surrounded with support from many different areas, one thing that we have to learn how to do is fight alone. When we are willing to fight by ourselves for the principles and dreams we believe in, we are ultimately choosing to live a life that we are destined to live. Being confident in your decisions is a key principle to living a free life. The choices you make on a daily basis are what make you who you are. Its cool to think a certain way, and to hope for certain things as well. But, really embodying what is on the inside of you means that you have to be willing to step out on the beliefs and standards that you hold dear.

There are going to be people around you who don’t quite get the choices you make, and who truly never desired to get them. These are the types of people to avoid giving any power in your life over your decisions. Because if it were left to them, you would only ever be what they want you to be.  Just because you may have to fight alone for a period of time doesn’t mean that you will have to do so forever. When we are willing to fight for what we believe in we will inspire other like-minded individuals who believe in the power of living a truthful life with confidence and freedom.

In life there are going to be many tough decisions that we are going to be faced with making, but they ultimately come down to primary things. Those crossroads are accept things as they are and living a normal life, or accepting that it is your destiny to change things for the better to help make your life and the life of others extraordinary. Which will you choose? Sometimes in life you have to be alone to fully understand yourself and where you are going so that in turn you can help inspire others to be their true selves.

Sometimes You Have To Be Your Own Hero

Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out. You can never be happy as someones other half unless you can be happy as a whole all on your own. 
Before we enter into relationships with others it is important to have a full understanding of who we are at the deepest levels. Without an understanding of self, we will never know who or how to be in a relationship with someone else. Too many people are emotionally dissatisfied with their lives and try to fill this emotional void with someone through a relationship. This could not be a worse approach. You need to be happy alone and then find someone else to be happy with.

Before you can settle into a happy life with someone else, you must be happy with your own life first. Your unhappiness will resurface and manifest itself in destructive ways in a relationship if you get in one before you’re happy alone. You cannot fix internal problems with external solutions. You must learn how to trust yourself before you can trust others. You must learn how to love yourself before you can genuinely give away this love in a relationship. The love you have for yourself will always reflect inside of every relationship you enter into, so always keep this in mind.

If you are helping someone just for your own sake and pride, then the warmness of the act is lost, and your pleasure from doing the act will be minimal at best. Helping others feels best when you genuinely want to help others. And that is often motivated by your own sense of self-worth and self-esteem. When you truly learn to love yourself you will figure out who is really for you, and who isn’t. The people that are for you will encourage you to love and nurture the relationship you have with yourself because they know it will in turn nurture the relationship you have with them.

Don’t rush through life, looking to love others before you truly love yourself. When the time is right you will easily recognize what a real love is. You can give all you want, but you can’t give something that you don’t already have. If you haven’t achieved happiness for yourself, then how could you possibly help someone else achieve their happiness? It’s impossible. You may be able to provide some short-term pleasure, but you can’t teach someone something that you have no understanding of. Live life by yourself; be happy by yourself. It’s your life; make it what you want. Don’t look for someone else to do it for you, because they can’t. Only you can know who you really are.

No Relationship Is Perfect

No relationship is perfect. You just have to know in your heart that the person you are with, is truly worth fighting for no matter what.
There’s no rhyme or reason to any relationship. Each union has its own characteristics that make it unique. To build in a relationship you must have a great foundation of understanding. Without a good understanding of your partner the amount of love that blossoms will be restrained and will eventually die from a lack of “light.” If you base your partner by how he or she looks, then hopefully they’ll have something else attractive when those looks fade to gray.

There are no perfect relationships. Many times that’s because we get frustrated with the flaws of our mates while ignoring the great qualities. Instead of embracing the fact that he is a great provider and father, we focus on the fact that sometimes he leaves his pants in the middle of the floor. Instead of focusing on how much she supports you and how much she does for your family, we focus on the fact that sometimes she can be a little emotionally needy or that she doesn’t have the body of a fitness model. When we focus on everything negative about our mates and we become less conscious of staying engaged then that’s when we lose connectivity and “grow apart.” Simply put if you don’t want to grow apart then grow together. Anytime two people come together for long periods of time there will be conflict. Of course, some people are more compatible than others, but this just proves our uniqueness even more.

One thing to focus on while in a relationship is learning and catering to the needs of your lover. Don’t compare who you are with now to a past love interest, an ideal mate, or anyone else. Encourage your lover to grow, but encourage them to grow into their true selves. If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won’t be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you. Don’t try to make someone into a person that you would like for them to be by making a scene every time you think they are incorrect.

Learn how to pick your battles to help encourage real growth in the people you love, so that you may grow with them instead of without them. Choose someone who will make you laugh, make you think, make you feel.  Choose someone who you can talk to as if they were your best friend — because they should be your best friend. Choose someone who doesn’t mind the silence in between and the chaos that strikes unexpectedly because one day when you’re old and gray and no longer possess any sexual desire whatsoever, you will need someone to back up the goods. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but we can make sure our relationships thrive when we accept people for who they are, focus on the things we love about them, and put in the effort to stay connected!

Not Everything Is Meant To Be Understood

Don’t try to understand everything. Sometimes it is not meant to be understood, just accepted.
Whats known in the heart doesn’t always have to be explained by the mouth. Give people the benefit of the doubt, and give people second chances, but always trust your gut and do what is right in your heart first and foremost. Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.

If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being “asocial” or “irrational” in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. How many lives have been ruined by this need to “explain,” which usually implies that the explanation be “understood,” i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself—to his reason and his conscience—and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation. Learning this life principle is key in helping those who desire to be great actually achieve that. Understanding this allows you to live a life with the wisdom of knowing when to pursue things and when not to to.

You have to be willing to believe that the things you are meant to change are the things that you will understand when you need to. Leave people behind that do not serve your happiness, and deplete you of joy. Don’t put your energy into feeding a person or experiences something that it doesn’t want or need. Don’t spend time with the people that do not make you happy and feed your soul. Don’t try to make people into something that they are not; and don’t do the same with experiences.

Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed. Sometimes understanding means sitting back and accepting the things that simply cant be changed, and actually having the strength to make sacrifices for the greater good. Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.

Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. Live, love, make mistakes, work hard, and go for what you want out of life. Remember, sometimes you will fail. Sometimes you may not get out of life what you thought you put in, and it wont make sense. But despite it all, keep your head high, and always refuse to quit. Keep going!

Don’t Let Little Stupid Things Break Your Happiness

Your happiness depends on you, yourself. Do not let other people or situations live in your head. That spot belongs to you and you do not need to share it, learn from it. Don’t let little stupid things break your happiness. 
Choose optimism over choosing to have a bad day. Every single day is a great day to be alive, no matter what, there is always some good in our day if we choose to look for it. Keep in mind God loves you too, & when you put your trust into him and listen he will guide you to happiness. He only gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers.

Happiness is all what you need to live stress-freely and keeping yourself on the right truck of life. Never let those little stupid thoughts and people make you feel unworthy and useless in life; you doesn’t need to please everyone. Even on our worst days there is something to be learned about life, about ourselves, our relationships, or our destinies.

Those little things may make you feel tired and unfortunate in life but never give up ,keep on working hard and your day will come one day so soon. Change how your day is going by recognizing that the power in doing so lies in your attitude. Are you allowing the perceived negative things that happened change your attitude? Or are you taking control of your day by speaking positivity into it, and by taking positive action despite it all?

We have choices throughout each day. We can slip in and out of happiness, depending on what is going on in our surroundings, or we can ride the waves effortlessly, maintaining our happy grounding. The decision to have a good day is in your hands. It may not be simple, but choose to be positive. You never know the opportunities that may arise in the midst of what you think is just another bad day. Just always be happy because sometimes those little stupid things are blessings in disguise. Invest on what you love and God will open up your doors of success.

Give But Don’t Allow Yourself To Be Used

Give but don’t allow yourself to be used. Love but don’t allow your heart to be abused. Listen to others but don’t lose your own voice.
Laws of Give and Take really work and you agreed to be the giver. True friends value you for who you are and not what you do for them. Be giving, be loving, be understanding, but never lose yourself in the process. When you truly know who you are and you do these things you are then able to give the best of yourself to whomever needs it. Sometimes, when people decide to leave you for good, you have to let them. No matter how much you don’t want them to, there are some things that are far beyond our control. And even if you have the strength to fight for them, you have to accept the cold, harsh truth ” that the people you can’t live without, can live without YOU.

Don’t allow yourself to wake up with yesterday’s issues troubling your mind. Refuse to live backwards, see everyday as a new chapter. Know who you are and what should be tolerated in order for you to continue to grow. It is very important to give of yourself, but we have to recognize that giving of ourselves for the wrong reasons will only kill our spirit. Without spirit, when you give, your efforts will lack true sincerity and love.

You cannot count on someone else to respect your feelings. You must respect your own feelings as messengers that are trying to tell you something. When someone is disrespectful and demeaning of you, your choice is to endure abuse, challenge it or walk away.
The bottom line is people will treat you the way that you let them. You train them through setting an unspoken contract of what is allowed in the relationship. Don’t apologize for setting good boundaries. If you want others to respect you, you must first show them that you have respect for yourself, and that you truly believe in who you will become. Just as you desire to nurture the relationships you have with others be willing to nurture the relationship you have with yourself. True friends have your back. They are there for you as you are there for them. Give and take!

There Is Beauty In Waking Away

A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves you a hundred moments of regret. Some of the very things that we hold on to the most, are the very things that we need to let go of.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Knowing when to walk away is key in your self development journey. Many people lose out on opportunities because they are stuck in trying to make things work that aren’t for them to make work.

Whatever it is, moving on can be tough.  In fact, one of the toughest things in the world, is to move on.  If you’ve ever ever been inconsolable, letting go in many instances will create significant gains in a persons life because it will provide them with the freedom that they need to become who they are meant to be.

We either try harder or we walk away from being present, loving ourselves, loving another, pursuing our passions or completing a task. We choose to continue doing, thinking, saying, listening, eating and being what we are, or we break up with it. If you are finding yourself frustrated in your situation time and time again, it may be time to let go. This doesn’t mean that you are weak, and this doesn’t mean that you aren’t courageous. Letting go at the right time actually means the opposite. It takes great strength, courage, and wisdom to remove the dead weight from your life because often this dead weight took a lot of time and effort to accumulate.

Life is one struggle after the next, a battery of choices every day, “Do I stay or do I leave?” We liberate ourselves when we understand our emancipation is granted when we abide by one commandment: Thou shall not struggle against struggle. It’s simple, but it’s not easy: Do not make more struggle. We are released from bondage when we know, regardless if we stay or go, we have the choice to stay or go. We are in charge of our own suffering. We can walk away from it when we wish.
No storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass, not to stay. Don’t worry! No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever. Remember its better to have a broken heart once, than it is to have a broken heart repeatedly because you refused to walk away.

Being Happy Is Realizing Life Isn’t Perfect

Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect, it means you have have decided to look beyond imperfections. The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.
Happiness…probably the greatest scam ever sold to the general public. We are taught growing up that happiness is the goal of life. We are taught that happiness is the solution to all problems and that each and every person can find it for him or herself.
Being happy means that a person is willing to realize that life isn’t perfect, and that circumstances will always change but attitudes shouldn’t. Things are never going to be the way you want, where is it going to get you, acting serious? Things are never going to be quite what you want. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond to what happens to you. Count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles.
As we all know well, perfection is not possible in the grand scheme of life. No matter how wonderful, happy, or peaceful your life is, it’s never going to be perfect. N-E-V-E-R. As a perfection-seeker, this a hard concept for me to grasp. My life will never be perfect? Really?! I have to admit that my heart skips a beat when I think about that. We all want a perfect life right? The question is…do we all accept the fact that we can’t have one? I think I’m still working on making sense of this reality.When a person is truly happy they know that happiness is truly choosing to take each day as it comes and deciding to look at the positive in everything instead of always seeking out the negative.

Happy people know that life is hard at times and instead of becoming resentful because of it, they are grateful to even have life. This much is certain: when a man is happy, happy to the core and root beatitude, he is no longer conscious of himself or anything else.

True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient. Life is about the little things. If you choose to examine and habitually meditate on the pieces of life that make you miserable, you will be miserable. When you choose to examine and habitually think on the things that you are grateful for and that make you smile, you’re going to be happy. The choice is yours, take your happiness into your own hands.

You will also have moments when you will be unhappy, miserable, heartbroken. You will find yourself at the bottom of a ditch at least once in your life, unable to figure out a way to make it back out. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach, we just haven’t realized that. What you ought to be aiming for is contentedness because the only person who can hurt your happiness in the long run is YOU.

Love When You’re Ready, Not When You’re Lonely

You’ve been searching and searching but you still haven’t found “The One” yet. You’re a great catch and date often, but just can’t seem to find the right person! Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
Love is a very difficult area to conquer in life, and finding that someone who is really going to be there forever seems almost impossible these days. In fact, this belief is so prevalent that many people don’t even think about marriage until much later in their adult lives.
Love works best when it’s shared, not acquired, or desired, or longed for. If we have developed a healthy relationship with ourselves and have generated ample amount of love from within, then we’ll have plenty to put out into the world. We shouldn’t be putting out the love in hopes that we get it back, but simply because we have it to give and enjoy giving it. There are many factors for the recent disbelief in long term relationships and one key reason is the fact that people are choosing to allow themselves to enter into relationships before they are truly ready. When you quit being judgmental of every little “flaw” and start becoming comfortable with who you are, you’ll be able to offer the same accepting and loving attitude to someone else as well.

One of the easiest things to do is to enter into a relationship with someone else. While one of the most difficult things to do is actually maintain a committed relationship with someone. Once you’ve fallen in love deeply, you yearn for that love; you wish to find it again. You become lonely. You begin to fantasize and create a reality that doesn’t actually exist. Then you fall in love with someone unworthy of it.

The truth is, you won’t know until you find the next person you truly fall in love with. It is for this reason that we must be willing to examine ourselves before we allow ourselves to enter into relationships with others. If you aren’t comfortable with who you are yet, you simply aren’t really going to know what you really desire from a partner in life. Not the time you spend with a phone glued to your ear or the time you spend on social media that really matter, but some real “me time”?  If so, that’s a big indicator that you aren’t just looking for a relationship to fill a lonely void, and you’re ready for love.

Being alone doesn’t need to be cured, it’s a mindset, it needs to be embraced. There are people in relationships who still feel alone. There are people in crowded rooms and still feel alone. There are authors who sit and type for hours by themselves, but feel crowded by the characters in their minds. Make wise decisions when you are choosing to open your heart for love. Don’t rush or force it, but don’t run from it when you recognize either.

So, do you hold yourself back from loving until you’re sure it’s real? No. If it ends up being real, then you’ve made it. If not, then you surely had a good time for a good stretch, and because you now know you weren’t in love, moving on will be easy. Live and love as much as you can. Those will be the stories you tell when you’re old and wrinkled.