Being deeply loved gives you strength, loving deeply gives you courage.
It takes a lot more courage to love someone than it does to be loved. Choosing to love means that we are ultimately willing to face the fact that we will have to give a person our trust, and our whole hearts. Very rarely will we go through life giving someone access to the deepest and most private parts of ourselves and not be disappointed by them eventually.
The pain inflicted by the people we love often isn’t intentional but it happens. It takes a very strong love to continue to love someone even after we’ve been hurt by people in the past, but real love is always worth it.
Like everything in life we are going to experience ups and downs in our relationships. The only type of advice that should be received in relation to your own personal relationships with loved ones is to make sure that you are being courageous in them. Real love can not be present with an absence of courage.
Truth is, you’ll end up real disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you
You are responsible for being happy with your own life. If you think that the people in your life are there to make you happy, you will most certainly live a life full of disappointment. No one is perfect, and no one will ever be able to live up to every single standard that you may desire for them to.
Besides, living life with others has never been about how far along you can go in a friendship or relationship without being let down.
Your relationships with others should be built around the wisdom that neither one of you will be perfect in them. There are going to be bumps in the road. The true test of a lasting friendship is how/if you will be able to get past these bumps in the road, together.
Never stop making new friends because of being let down in the past. And never stop working on the relationships that you have with others, unless it is truly time to let go.
Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide.
Never stop being who you are, even if that means you may be misunderstood by most. Just because the majority of people don’t understand you, doesn’t mean that you’re an outcast or anything of that nature. It just means you are so special that there are people out there who won’t seek to understand you, but will instead show you hate because they don’t want to understand, they’d rather just get by in life hoping to fit in.
It is because of this that we must absolutely be willing to go against the normalcies in society. We must be willing to consciously fight against the notion that we can’t be ourselves, when we totally can.
Sure there is always a certain respect you should show to those around you, but this doesn’t mean you should change who you are. Be yourself, and the people who are supposed to be in your life will always be there to help you do so.
Don’t let your happiness be controlled by something you can’t control.
Being happy is all about perspective. Some of the poorest people in the world with just enough to get by have been shown to be more happy than people living in thriving nations and economies and the reasons are fairly obvious should we choose to give them some belief.
While many of us are made to believe that the levels of happiness we will achieve in life correlate with what we possess materially, at some point we have to be willing to confront these beliefs if we are ever going to obtain true happiness.
Happiness comes from being able to be the truest versions of ourselves, and being able to live out the purpose we have in life. We will never be able to control everything around us, but we can control how happy we are by not doubting who we are.
We can be happy by believing we are more than the struggles that we know will come along the way, and because we know there are great heights that we will eventually soar to.
Understanding is much deeper than knowledge. There are many who know you, but very few who understand you.
In true love every moment can be a moment of discovery. When we love someone we must further our knowledge of this person as much as possible in order to gain the best understanding of this person as possible. As we gain more and more understanding about the person we love, we are able to gauge their reactions to things before they come past, we are able to talk to them in a manner that will produce the most results in times of despair, and we are able to love them to the fullest extent that love will allow.
Part of the job description of being someone’s lover is that one must take time, preferably on a daily basis to discover something new about his or her lover. Most people who have been in successful long-term relationships realize that this is a very significant way to keep their relationships fresh and young, and utilize this tool on a normal basis.
When fear knocks answer with faith.
There are going to be many times in life in which we are challenged with whether to face our fears and doubts, or to choose and have faith in order to see a miracle happen.
Choosing the side of fear in intense situations will never take you past where you haven’t already been. But keeping the faith ensures that you will at minimum have a chance to reach whatever desires are burning in your heart.
Never stop believing that your future is bright, that God has a plan for your life, even in the darkest of times.
It is in these dark times that we are able to see beautiful things like bright stars that shine above in darkness. Subtly reminding us that no matter how ugly life can be, beauty can always be found if we are willing to just look up.
Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.
Life will never be any fun if you can never rise above the small thoughts and opinions people will have of you. Just because you or the people around you have made a decision about who you are based on your flaws, doesn’t ever mean that you really are this person, or that your weaknesses must remain your weaknesses.
In order to continually put yourself in a position of growth embrace the idea that flaws are real, and embrace the wisdom that tells us that with enough hard work, these flaws can become our strengths.
Don’t deny that you are flawed, for we all are. The difference between those who succeed and those who succeed gloriously is the way that they are able to turn their weakest attributes into their greatest strengths.
Be great, conquer your weaknesses with practice, dedication, consistency, and heart.
When you love what you have you have everything you need.
If you are ever going to be great you have to believe in the fact that where you are presently is already a blessing. Many people don’t have much and desire to have more, but the greatest people around all know that growing and moving forward requires the use of the resources that they have in the present to get there.
Learning to be grateful is the beginning of the journey to success. Life will always get difficult, and there will always be bumps along the road. But when you choose to walk in the darkest times with an attitude of gratitude, you are also choosing to proceed in your journey at the same time.
When you stop believing, you stop moving forward. When you stop moving forward you are essentially giving up on life itself. Love and use what you have now to get to the places in life that you really want to be.
Let go of the past and the past will let go of you.
You can never change what has happened in the past but you can make your future brighter by remembering your past and learning from it. One of the greatest things we are given as humans is the ability to learn from our past experiences, whether they are wins or pitfalls.
Remember that every day you are given new breath you have choices to make. These choices will lead you into the rest of your life, no matter how small or unimportant these choices will seem to be at the time.
So make it a point to look forward proactively. Meaning, don’t tread lightly when making decisions on a day to day basis. Choose things that will allow you to grow from who you once were into the person that you always desired to be.
Remember a mistake may be a mistake once or twice, but the mistakes that you habitually repeat will eventually become your story. Learn and become great from the experiences of yesterday.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
I’m sure we have all wanted to go back in time and be who we used to be, especially when someone that we used to love was around. For instance many of us who have lost close loved ones unexpectedly and suddenly are left with feelings of resentment and the cluelessness of what may have been if that person was able to stay around longer.
The simple fact is that people are in our lives for seasons, and whether or not we are ready to let them go out of our lives, it isn’t up to us. Life happens! Take the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, and all of what you learned directly and indirectly from your relationship with your lost loved one and input these given variables into the huge equation that some of us call life, and slowly but surely you will be closer and closer to the answer.